All the kids – restless. As it is sung in the old song In every little child …. Only here is one thing when a beloved child is having fun on the playground, and quite another when entertainment is out of the blue in the process of learning activities.
Relevant and inappropriate activity
My son is a keen child, very sociable and inquisitive. But all of the above advantages apply exclusively to those areas of knowledge, employment and entertainment, which he likes. Everything else we do anyhow or in every possible way we try to dodge unpleasant tasks.
And I understand all this – all of them (although I still cannot get used to it, that my little crumb is already capable of being determined quite categorically in her own decisions). But sometimes my mother, my finger hurts – I do not want … it may concern both cleaning toys and, for example, taking a bath.
A child doesn’t have a mood – and you can’t persuade him. But this is a separate topic. The main problem is the catastrophic restlessness in the process of drawing, writing or other learning.
I have to stand over his soul and repeat every second, suggest and draw his attention to the notebook. At the same time, the child manages to squint his eyes on the TV, lay out his pencils in length and color, or simply fold the leaves in the notebook.
I’m even afraid to think what he will do when I won’t stand over him like this. So you ask your son, draw me a circle / train / fish, and so on, go out to the kitchen to drink water, and the son in the room is already chasing the flies on the ceiling.
What I just did not do in order to calm the child
The place to practice was maximally protected from external irritants. For example, only one pencil is given to the hands, so that there is no temptation to start changing them every second. Then – the TV, the computer, the light in the room (we sit near the window and in the evenings we try not to work, so as not to tire our eyes) are turned off so as not to distract and so distracted attention.
And nothing. It would seem that she removed everything, but the grabber still finds what to grab, break or twist. And the eyes all the time strive to break away from the notebook in search of a more interesting look to contemplate.
About the attention in class, I generally keep quiet. In one ear flew – in the other flew. I repeat several times what I want from him. First I write it myself, then I show it with my own hand. And only I should weaken control, as even lines / triangles or rods become wavy, change their scale and smoothly begin to wander around the whole sheet.
Tried a way to type you do it, and then I’ll give you candy. Does not help. That is not the case. It helps, but not in the right way. The child does, taking not quality, but quantity. He will draw a hundred of these chopsticks, circles, just to get candy. Another question is that these circles are very similar to small squares, and the lines are like unknown strange squiggles in general to science.
Motivation of the type – if you do, you go to watch a cartoon, it does not work much either. Does, does quickly and not trying.
And what do I do with this harmful restless and inattentive happiness?