Every parent wants to give his child the best. This applies to toys, clothing, and education. Each child is different and requires a special approach. But there is a list of actions that should not be used by parents in relation to children.
I think that each of you know these techniques. But, perhaps, you applied any of them in a fit of resentment, anger or excessive anxiety, without realizing it.
Read, think and express your point of view, dear readers Alimero!
How not to raise a child?
Often during quarrels, from parents you can hear the phrase: Did you think well?. As a rule, children respond in the affirmative, and adults begin to convince otherwise, thereby provoking the tears of the child. With frequent repetition of such a scenario, the child may experience problems with self-esteem.
Do not require a child minute obedience. Of course, parents are happy when the child abandons his children’s affairs and runs to fulfill the request of the parents, only the child will eventually behave like a puppet and will not be able to insist on it in the future. And this threatens with the fact that he will perform someone else’s work in adult life.
In education should be sequence. When two adults are involved in the educational process, this sequence is often not respected. For example, a child asks for permission to take a walk in the yard of the mother. Mom agrees. When a child puts on a jacket, a dad appears in the hallway and forbids the child to go for a walk. This should not be allowed. And even more so, in no case can not cancel the punishment given by the other parent.
Everything is good in moderation
It does not follow speak a lot. In order for the child to understand what he was wrong, a couple of sentences are enough. Do not think that the number of words spoken by you, the baby is more aware of his guilt. On the contrary, in this case, the child’s consciousness is quickly turned off and the mother’s voice is perceived as extraneous noise.
Do not require from the child of those things for which he has not yet grown. Once I witnessed an unpleasant conflict. A man asked his 3-year-old son to wash a cup. The kid, with a cup in his hands, climbed onto a chair to reach the crane. The cup fell and broke. A lot of ugly, humiliating words said then the father to the child.
Manifest to the child moderate care. The kid, who is being watched overly, often feels incomplete, not independent. This threatens with the fact that in the future he will not be able to independently accept a child, looking back at the opinions of others.
How often do you use these techniques? Do you agree that they negatively affect the development and self-esteem of the child, or do you have a different point of view?