An adult can easily satisfy his hunger for information. To do this, he has books, the Internet, television … With a child, everything is more complicated. For a child who has just begun his acquaintance with the world, the only source of information is parents, grandparents, adults who surround him.
And the crumbs are much more questions. His picture of the world has not yet had time to take shape completely. And even the most simple, everyday things can give rise to a lot of misunderstanding in his soul.
He wants to know why the sky is blue and the grass is green; why cats meow and dogs bark; why you need to sleep and you can not play all night long …
Baby why? Headache for parents. After all, such seemingly simple questions can be quite difficult to answer.
Adults perceive many phenomena as a given, not thinking about the nature of their origin. And when a baby asks about this nature, they are often at an impasse, they do not know what to answer and how to explain.
Little kids They are such observant, that only the diva remains to be given. I could not even think before that you can look at simple things so hard. And only now I understand it when my little son woke up the excitement of the discoverer. For a whole year we have been learning to respond to endless why?
And you know, I am pleased to do this. After all, these numerous questions are evidence that the son is growing, developing, and most importantly – thinking.
Help your child grow up to why?
Moreover, I specifically taught him to ask. I plagued him with numerous questions on the street. I asked them and answered them myself, since the son had not yet spoken very well.
We also played one interesting game. At first I asked him very simple questions, to which the child knew the answer. Where is Dad? Why is it outside (after rain) damp? What does pussy do? And then she offered him to do the same.
Now the need for such games have disappeared. The son is a walking why. Questions spill out of it without stopping. And I’m glad.
The problem, however, is that not all parents share my opinion on this subject. For many, the curiosity of the baby becomes a problem, an extra difficulty.
Not knowing what to answer to a stupid (from the point of view of parents) question, they simply brush off the crumbs. They are irritated … their own failure. The baby is not to blame for the fact that you cannot explain why the sun is shining. He just wants to know. And he asks for help from his parents, because he trusts them, considers them authority.
But the trouble is that parents often do not give in this report. At best, ignore the child. At worst, they blame for pestering.
This behavior is detrimental to the little man. It destroys his trust in mom and dad, provokes the development of complexes and discourages the desire to learn.
So to answer the kids why? necessary. But how?
This form of response is not uncommon. We have a family in the yard. and whenever we encounter on the street, I observe the following picture. The child asks. He is answered, he is not ignored. That’s just the benefits of such answers bring no more.
Because, it is necessary, it should be so, and even head off … And, really, why puzzle, choose the right words, if you can otmmatsya this way. Simple and affordable.
But following this path, the parents block the child’s access to the only source of knowledge. Consequently, his acquaintance with the world will be limited.
The answer is encyclopedic
Once I involuntarily overheard the conversation of the father with my son about four years. A parent told his son about the sun and sunshine. He got so carried away (it looks like dad was from among intellectuals) that he came to magnetic storms and flares on a star.
Undoubtedly, it is pleasant that dad is so knowledgeable and seeks to share his knowledge with the child. However, it is unlikely that his answer brought some clarity to the misunderstanding of the crumbs. Rather, it spawned a mass of new misunderstandings.
To answer the most useful for the child, you need to learn to speak … in the language of the crumbs! It is indeed difficult to do. But we must try.
For example, I always try to answer with the simplest phrases, without any frills and complex speech turns. Appealing words known to the child, I try to convey information to him. At the same time I try not to descend to the banalities of the type – the sun is shining, because it is hot. Such answers provoke a series of new why? Yes, and make a little clarity.
In addition, I like to push my son to think and find answers by his own. For example, he recently asked me why I water the flowers. I answered the question with a question: What do you think, why do they need some water? He said: Do they drink? My answer is yes. And again the question: But they do not have a mouth? This is where my turn came for clarification. However, the fact that the flowers consume water, the son came on his own.
Answering a question with a question is helpful. A child with this approach learns to think, think, think. Sometimes his answers are so fantastic that I would hardly have thought of this.
A couple of days ago, he noticed that the moon is not visible in the sky. Asked, as usual, why? I explained that the moon hid behind clouds. It was cloudy. But the son with a serious air rejected my assumption and stated: I think this Uncle hid the moon, because he does not want to go to bed! Iron logic, what can I say!
By the way, whenever a son comes to explaining his question on his own, I praise him. This pushes him to new reflections. And children why? They are not a problem for us, but a form of communication, the development of trusting relationships and mutual understanding.