Yesterday Ksyusha told me in the evening that she would no longer go to kindergarten. I was surprised – because with tears my daughter had not gone to the kindergarten for more than a year. Surely many parents faced a problem when their child categorically refuses to go to kindergarten and remains there with tears.
Of course, no mother will be able to feel calm and comfortable if she came out of the kindergarten to the sound of crying and screaming her baby. But in most cases, such situations can be avoided if you do not ignore the child, and help him cope with the problem.
In kindergarten for the first time
If your baby is just going to kindergarten, it is very important to properly prepare the baby. About a month before the expected date of commencement of kindergarten visits, it will be very useful to go on an excursion to kindergarten. The child will certainly be interested in other children playing in kindergarten.
Tell your child what a kindergarten is and inform him that very soon he will go to kindergarten. Try to route your walk past the gardens and every time remind the kid about it.
I think that it is not worth telling that the first days it is necessary to leave the child in the garden for only a few hours, gradually increasing the time of stay. This is so well known to all. I would like to draw attention to one thing – many psychologists and educators advise mom to leave when the child is distracted and does not follow mom.
However, such an action can lead to the worst – to the loss of confidence of the child. And in the future, the baby, who will be afraid that you will leave him again at any moment, will follow you around like a shadow, fearing to lose sight of even for a second.
My advice to you – before you leave – tell the baby about it and promise that you will soon return and take him home. Of course, the child may cry, but these tears will dry out very quickly, as the child will be sure that the mother will definitely come back!
If the kindergarden starts crying
If a child, who previously always went to the kindergarten with pleasure, begins to cry and refuse to go there again, the parents should be wary. Notice what has changed.
Perhaps the child began to go to bed later and does not get enough sleep? Or did the teachers change in the kindergarten? Or perhaps there was a new brisk baby who offends your child?
Talk to kindergarten teachers. It may be worthwhile to quietly watch the children and the caregiver, for example, while walking. Sometimes this can clarify the situation. Be sure to talk to your child. But do not use any leading questions. So, for example, having heard the question of whether the teacher is offending him can become a straw for the child, for which he clings in the hope that he will be allowed not to attend kindergarten.
An ordinary role-playing game also helps me very often. Invite a child to play kindergarten and carefully observe his actions and words during the game. Very often, the child fully reveals the problem and thoroughly plays with it.