Today our neighbors were moving out. My father-in-law helped them to load things into the car. It is a pity that they will not live together. After all, their granddaughter, Kate, had been friends with my niece and daughter for a long time.
My niece with the neighbor girl Katya is friends, probably, from the cradle. I remember how I rolled them on the swings, how we walked together on the river, we devoured ice cream. The niece always asked for leave from her mother (my husband’s sister) or went with her. And Kate did not have anyone to ask, her grandmother and grandfather were at work.
Katya and her elder brother have a mother for three years. But she left them when the baby was about two years old. With my husband, as far as I understood, Kati’s mom broke up. But if the father abandons the children, it doesn’t mean that the mother should refuse them. Apparently, Katina’s mother does not understand this. She left the children in search of a new love. Grandfather and grandmother began to look after the children.
To look after, and not to look and bring up. Because children, like plants, grew by themselves. Raised their street. It is not surprising that Dima, who just turned 11, already drinks and smokes for a long time, and Katerina plays more with adult boys than with girls of her age. The exception is my niece.
In general, I know from our in-laws that our neighbors have left their grandchildren alone at home for a long time. I do not know just from what age. For me, this is wildness, honestly. I just can not imagine how you can leave the children alone at home for the whole day. I would have worn out everything in their place.
But children, apparently, are independent: they warm themselves for food, eat and do their homework. I, at their age, could only envy such independence. I went to and from school on my own, and this was not always the case. Mostly we went out with my mother, crossed the road, and I went to school, and she went to work (to her along the way).
Then there were various accidents on the road at rush hour, and now even more so! In our city there were so many terrible cases, because of which children died. Therefore, I would be afraid to let my children go to school alone. I myself am afraid to cross the road.
On a visit
A few days ago we were visiting friends. Their child is 6 years old. The boy is only a year older than my daughter, and he is no longer afraid to be left alone at home. We talked on this topic. It turned out that their boy, albeit for a short time, but remains alone at home from 3 years.
I remember my daughter at this age. My daughter was 2 years and 11 months old when I had to leave her for 3 full days. But I had a good reason for that: my husband and I went to the maternity hospital for a little boy.
We live with my husband’s parents, who are always at home. I knew that my beloved mother-in-law would look after my daughter. Believe me, I called home during the fights, I worried terribly. And even called right after the birth, in order to tell her daughter that her brother was born. During these 3 days my daughter is very mature.
Our friends are simply forced to leave their son at home, as they work, and they have no grandparents. I would not have been able, my soul would have been torn to pieces, knowing that my son or daughter can climb somewhere or do something.
The news often says that children fall out of the windows while mom goes to the store or on business. And what matters could be more important than a child? For example, I always take mine to the store, even though it is two steps away from us. I think nothing is more important than a child. And leaving kids unattended at the age of 6-7 is too early.
My daughter is not yet so independent. She can only eat and clean up after herself. I don’t allow it to the stove, oven, electrical appliances. Therefore, I do not even know when and for how long she can be alone. In addition, my father-in-law is always at home, and they look after her, which is already very good.
What do you think, from what age children can be left at home?