Long and unsuccessfully struggling with the avoidance of her daughter difficulties. Everything tries to find easier ways to solve problems, and if it does not work out – cry, crying and tears. Already ready to come to terms with this character trait, but it turned out that everything was not so hopeless.
Not once watched as her daughter avoids difficult situations for her. Put on a jacket or pants backwards – ah, let it be so, change clothes for a long time. We start in the game to complicate tasks – quickly lose interest in it. And in general, looking for the most simple ways and solutions, just not to strain.
For example, she has many notebooks and development books. Grandfather constantly gives something in accordance with her age. But before she did not touch them, but now she takes and performs the tasks that are provided for young children, with whom she copes on time.
When I begin to smoothly translate it to more serious tasks, it refers to fatigue or lack of interest. I do not press, because from this neither interest nor enthusiasm will not increase. But the fact saddens me.
And the reaction to sudden difficulties just kills me. As soon as she ceases to have something conceived in the way she planned, right away weeping and tears. Often, pencils, drawings, toys and everything else that she does not want to do what she needs is scattered around the room.
I have one child, I observe only a glimpse of other children, so it was difficult to say for sure whether such behavior is typical for age, or is it such a trait of character. Recently I got a consultation with a psychologist who calmed me down – this is an age. But also strained – if not dealt with this, it will become a trait of character.
What to do?
In general, the behavior strategy, as it turned out, I chose the right one. I carried out all the advice given by the psychologist, and so, communicating with my daughter. For example, when something did not work out for her, for example, she drew a crooked house, to switch attention to how wonderful the flowers turned out to be.
Or when she fails to do something new as she wants, I explain that from the first time, no one succeeds. We must constantly try, train and one day everything will work out. Like Uncle Edison. The story of a light bulb is a talk of the town!
And of course, celebrate her achievements. Remind how she once did something wrong, and how well it turns out now. Of course, to remind that she didn’t even know how to walk, but now she doesn’t even think about how to do this – an example is rather abstract, but I sometimes use it for a change.
In general, I am stuffing my hand on support. Because the psychologist warned that in school, in the first grades, the child in this regard is even more difficult.
How do you experience (or survive) this age feature?