Undoubtedly, all mothers love their children. Shows his love each in different ways. One buys expensive toys, the other from 2 years of age teaches foreign languages, the third pleases a one-year-old daughter with clothes from famous fashion designers. The question involuntarily arises: will it make the child happy?
Write this topic prompted me to talk with a neighbor Alina, the mother of a 3-year-old girl. Alina told about a quarrel with her mother-in-law, who believes that she does not love her baby enough. Alina’s indignation knew no bounds.
– Do you have any idea how I do not like Sofia? Yes, her dress is 2 times more expensive than mine! I am for developing activities, you know how much I cry? – she complained to me.
At this time, Sofiyka got two feet in a puddle and with interest led her finger through the dirty water. Alina with irritation called her daughter. Irritation was manifested both in tone and in the choice of words … She screamed at the little girl with a mat. The baby, apparently, heard such words not for the first time. Therefore, she meekly climbed out of the puddle with a deadpan look.
I could not come to myself for a long time. I was sorry for the girl and I struggled with the desire to express my opinion to Alina. But I know her character too well. Therefore, I decided to throw out my emotions into writing this topic.
How to make a happy child?
one. Talk I love you. Do not spare these words for the most dear man.
Even if the child did not live up to your desires, continue to love him and not forget about it. You can say this phrase: I love you even when I’m angry.
2 Interested in the affairs of the child. Baby should feel that you care about him. Do not forget, when meeting him from the garden, to ask what he played today, what he ate, who he communicated with. Such dialogues are very close.
3 Tell the story of the birth of a child. My daughter often asks for the night, instead of a fairy tale, to tell how she was born. And I start a fascinating story about how the prince and princess met, fell in love with each other and wanted a little beautiful girl. And God found out about this desire and gave them the most beautiful, beloved, sweet and unique Yuliachu. Daughter from these stories delighted!
four. Share your plans with your child. If the baby is interested in where you are going today, do not answer dryly: For. Tell your child about what you need to do, where to go, why certain events are happening.
five. Be interested in the opinion of the child. Let him take part in drawing up the menu for tomorrow or in choosing a picture in the bedroom. A child whose opinion is important will feel like an integral part of the family.
6 Please children. I really do not like the word indulge. In my associations, this is something of the type to allow too much. Delight the child with a trip to the zoo, a huge balloon or a trip to the cinema. Do not forget that childhood is fleeting!
7 Attract children to help. As a rule, kids copy their parents around: repair toy machines, cook dolls for soup, or make plasticine cakes. For us, this is work, and for them – an exciting game. Let them play with you more often!
eight. Smile to the children. Even if you scrape cats, do not forget to smile at your little man! See, he will appreciate it.
9. Do not show irritation. We are all humans. Sometimes we have trouble at work, health problems, or just a bad mood. Never take it out on a child!
ten. Hug babies more often. Not formally. Tight tight. So that the little man, created from your flesh and blood, each cell senses your strong maternal love!
Do you always manage to follow these rules?