Why do husbands change their pregnant wives? comments of men and advice of a psychologist
To understand the reasons for the betrayal of husbands to their pregnant wives, first of all, it is worth paying attention to the psychological aspect of this problem. The main factors that contribute to the betrayal of wives during pregnancy,; this is a feeling of jealousy, uselessness to your partner, prejudices about the harm of sex during the carrying of a child, as well as the physical unattractiveness of a pregnant woman. All this will be considered in more detail.
Why do men change women and, in particular, pregnant wives – psychologists answer that it’s all about physiology. The reasons for the changes are related to the fact that at the initial stages of pregnancy (especially if the child is the first), the attitudes and microclimate in the family change radically. Excerpts from the scientific works of psychologists and psychoanalysts to an unprepared person are unlikely to help. Therefore, in order not to miss the moment when men start to think about treason, let’s try to understand their psychology, giving them the opportunity to express their opinion.
Fedor K.: Our child was planned and desired – and, incidentally, the wife was able to conceive only after two years of unsuccessful attempts. After that, an endless stream of questions collapsed on us: “And who do you want more – a girl or a boy?” And what is his (her) name? Are you happy together? ; etc. All this entered our life almost immediately, from the first days after the confirmation of pregnancy.
As a result, the future child and wife became the main topic of discussion for our friends and acquaintances. They seemed to stop paying attention to me. Everyone was talking about who else is not, and I, who already have, did not have enough attention. Home conditions began to oppress – and I began to stay longer at work. There I became friends with Tatiana, an employee of our company. I was not in love, but, importantly, she was interested in my thoughts, my worries, carried away my views on life. My daughter is now a year and a half, and everything seems to have returned to her former places, but that difficult period helped me overcome my colleague – she was the one who understood me.
We see that Fyodor, like many other men, did not set out to leave the family, and the affair with Tatyana, most likely, is already in the past. It’s simple: a man does not want to be ignored, knowing that all love is given to a child. Which man will like to be the navel of the earth, and then suddenly turn into an empty place;
Kostya N .: I remember how I waited for the replenishment in the family, and I shudder at the recollections. At that time it seemed to me that morally I was ready, like a rock! But the wife plunged headlong into her worries, and I somehow quietly began to use as an ATM: I was suddenly remembered on the day of my salary or with an empty refrigerator. They also remembered me when it was necessary to move the closet – that’s the whole family life. I felt fine, only communicating with friends outside the family circle. At home, I was awaiting debriefing and a list of outstanding cases.
My husband, of course, did not rush to support all-knowing nymphs, but a step away from his family; removal from the wife; was made. Not every man is capable and ready to easily adapt to the growing needs of a young family.
Sometimes a wife in the middle of the night may want to be salty or sweet, or suddenly throw out her emotions, or she needs to immediately, here and now, redevelop the apartment on the eve of the birth of a child. The husband needs it as a guarantor of providing all needs, but he is not needed in the spiritual plan. We will have a child, which means you must. The following list is attached.
Anton P .: My wife and I were worried that our intimacy could damage the future child and our sex life came to naught. So lived for a while, but gradually male nature began to take its. And even though I did not have a permanent mistress, but several meetings with different women helped me to get a little distracted. It goes without saying that my wife knew nothing about this, because I was worried about the well-being of her and her future child.
For many men, sex with a pregnant woman seems something unnatural, it seems dangerous and harmful occupation, even in the absence of obvious contraindications. To help here can only women’s imagination and wisdom in intimate matters; so that the wolves are full and the sheep are safe.
Serious is a question for the husband; hold out for 9 months and not change, stay a man. Unfortunately, it happened in my life, and I'm to blame myself. I was preparing for pregnancy and childbirth from books and medical journals, and it was clearly written that in the first three months of pregnancy the sex life should be limited. For me this word sounded like; excluded;. The husband went to the left, and later the family disintegrated. Everything must be done wisely and not go to extremes.
Indeed, pregnancy, especially the first, is a difficult test for the relationship. New sensations, fear, sometimes malaise go to the forefront of a woman and often her husband does not have enough attention. I, too, went through this, the relationship began to grow cold, there was growing misunderstanding. Prior to adultery, fortunately, did not reach, I looked at the situation from time to time. The main thing is to discuss with the husband arising claims and grievances, share their new feelings, not forgetting to cope with what excites him, and most importantly; both must have an understanding that these difficulties are temporary.
Why change? cranks on the letter m because. as if you can not tolerate without sex, the hands of a peasant on what? The husband is not a child, he must understand that now the woman pays more attention to her health and the health of her future child. but longer what? The child will be born, too, will run to the left, attention will be paid even more to the child.