Fear of giving birth – how to overcome fear?
You rarely meet a woman who would not want to become a mother, at least in the long term. And just as rarely you will find one that would not be at least a little scared. Anyone admits: I’m afraid to give birth to a sick child, I’m afraid of pain, I’m afraid not to endure, to become a bad mother, to spoil the figure, the relationship with my husband and so on.
And no reason doctors can not calm women. It is understandable.
Even modern medicine does not guarantee. Childbirth remains to some extent a lottery. But you can make straws where you are afraid to fall.
So, what to do if you catch yourself thinking: I’m afraid to give birth?
To begin with, it is useless to conduct surveys among your girlfriends, trying to find out from them whether it is terrible to give birth. Ladies love to talk about all sorts of horrors from the hospital. If possible, avoid these conversations.
In the end, the experience of all is very different, but most mothers unite – they quickly forget about their own difficulties and pain associated with childbirth. So conceived by nature itself, otherwise no one would have given birth more than once and humanity would long ago have died out.
Given the possibilities of modern anesthesia, childbirth for many in general has become a painless process. Moreover, a considerable part of the discomfort during the process is caused precisely by fear, and not by genuine sensations. Knowing about this nuance, it’s not so terrible to give birth.
It is just to listen attentively to the midwife, to learn the right breathing, to be able to relax and begin to be adjusted for delivery even at the very beginning of pregnancy.
Many mothers feel how their phobias grow inside of them with the baby. The closer to childbirth, the worse. If the anxiety does not allow to sleep and makes the heart beat faster, then it’s better to go to a psychologist.
Without the help of this specialist, women who experienced difficult or unsuccessful first births can not do without. For the psychologist, the difference between very afraid to give birth and I’m afraid to give birth to a second child is principled.
If in the first case, fears are usually purely hypothetical, then in the second case, they are grounded in negative experience, and it is much more difficult to deal with them, but this is also possible. The psychologist can offer a number of techniques and exercises in order to reduce anxiety, tune in to a positive mood and most importantly – you together can find the root of this fear and safely remove it.
Some women are afraid to give birth due to poor heredity. As a rule, it is a fear to give birth to a sick child because of any genetic abnormalities that can affect the baby.