Why did no one warn me that it would be so: what should the future mother be prepared for
A perinatal psychologist, a breastfeeding consultant, the author and presenter of the courses, I will be the mother of Alexandra Anikina, told that future parents need to know before delivery and what things really are necessary for the baby.
Women who are expecting the birth of a child often understand the preparation for his birth, mainly as the purchase of diaper-rash-diapers, the choice of the most comfortable stroller, the most beautiful crib. And when the child is born, it turns out that the presence of a beautiful crib mdash; it is not at all a guarantee that the child will sleep in it; that the child for some reason does not take the breast, although the milk seems to be there; that a child can cry, even if he is dry and well-fed And young parents in horror understand that they do not even know what to do with this little creature. Thus to find answers to the majority of questions it is possible mdash; and you need to mdash; even during pregnancy.
There is a common opinion: there is no need to attend courses for pregnant women, this is a waste of time and money. Because they gave birth earlier without any courses and raised children, using the intuition and experience of grandmothers. You can not learn everything in advance, the theory is mdash; one, and a living child mdash; other. In the course of the matter, we’ll figure it out. And it’s just stupid to prepare for childbirth: no one knows how they will pass, but no one ever left the hospital to get pregnant, so the main thing is mdash; trust doctors.
Clothes: it needs a little! It is best for a child to be naked in general, and on her mother. But please my mother, too. So mdash; slippers, turtlenecks. Overalls for the street, a plaid, a cap for the street, warm little pintochki on his feet.
The crying of the child is mdash; it is the ingenious notion of nature. After all, it was necessary to create a sound that permeates the surrounding space through, penetrates directly into the brain and is absolutely, absolutely unbearable ?! For an inexperienced mother, the cry of her baby sounds the same in the early days, it often causes panic, and in the head of the mother immediately lights up the bulb he is hungry for. But within a month she will learn to distinguish the types of crying: that's how fatigue sounds, so much pain, so hunger, and just a desire to stay on your hands.
Therefore, at first I suggest, in response to the crying, to consistently try different reaction options: here the kid grunts (until loud crying is better not to bring), my mother comes up, catches his eye, strokes, hisses. Does not help mdash; takes in hands. Does not help mdash; wears, slightly rocks. If she gave the breast longer than half an hour ago, then she offers her breasts. If fed just mdash; probably there is something else here, for example, air got into it, and it should be helped to release by swearing vertically. Quite small kids groan when they want to use the toilet, you can help them, hold them over the sink. Or maybe the baby is already wet and uncomfortable.