I always thought that there should be many children in the family, and literally right after the birth of the first daughter, I wanted to give birth to her brother or sister. But since I am a doctor and a psychologist, I was well aware that I did not need to hurry.
The optimal age difference in terms of medicine
Medicine recommends a difference between pregnancies of at least five years. Only during this time, the mother’s body is fully restored and there will be a high probability that the next pregnancy will pass without pathologies.
When is it best to give birth to a second child in terms of psychology
Psychologists recommend giving birth to the weather or waiting for a difference of ten or eleven years. In the case of an old child, children do not perceive the difference between themselves. They, like twins, consider everything common, and most often there is no jealousy between them.
In the case of a large difference in age, the older child is already quite adult and, as a rule, is also not jealous of parents for the younger one. That difference of ten years is considered the most ideal from the point of view of psychology.
The age difference between children. My experience
At that moment I decided that I would give birth to my second child only in ten years. But fate decreed otherwise. Eight years after the first pregnancy, I gave birth to my younger daughters.
And she gave birth to her little son two years after the second pregnancy. My daughters are very friendly. The eldest daughter protects the younger ones.
It’s still too early to talk about the relationship between daughters and sons, my son yesterday was only two months old. But all the daughters were very pleased with the appearance of the brother and are already asking for more twin boys, but I am not yet ready for such a feat.
In the case of the birth of younger daughters, I practically fulfilled all the prescriptions in the age difference from both medical and psychological points of view. But with my son, I violated all the regulations.
But even despite this, the birth was great, and the attitude of older children to the baby is very good.
The conclusion from this whole story is quite simple. The recommendations, of course, are important, but the optimal age difference between children should be chosen strictly individually. You can not all dub under one comb.