9 months of anxious waiting and … Oh, a miracle! The dream has come true. Most likely, those are right who say that the main purpose of a woman is to be a mother.
But what should those representatives of the weaker sex who, due to objective reasons, do not receive this very purpose to fulfill? And it’s not even that there is no desire. It is. But he cannot be realized at all.
A similar situation has developed with my friend. Her field of activity is directly related to the kids. Once she deliberately chose this profession for the simple reason that she loves children, always dreamed of having her own and working with strangers.
Red diploma, excellent recommendations, invitation to work … It would seem that life was a success. What about your baby? It will, of course.
And here is the marriage and the long-awaited pregnancy. Only everything collapsed in just a few months. Miscarriage on a late term.
The girl spent a long time in the hospital. The husband was deaf to her feelings. He seemed not to be upset at all. Sometimes he visited his wife, brought her medicine. However, only until such time as the money that had been left in the purse of the spouse had run out.
At his own expense, he was not ready to purchase medicines. Well, that parents supported the girl. A friend could not forgive such an attitude. There was a divorce.
When the pain subsided, she decided to try again to become a mother. But to give birth only for yourself, not relying on male carelessness.
One after another failed pregnancy. The diagnosis is one – underdevelopment of the fetus.
I must say that this girl is monitoring her health, leading a correct lifestyle, observed by doctors. And after losing her first child, she underwent a long course of treatment.
But it turned out the way it did. Doom… That is how you can describe her condition. She is already afraid of another pregnancy, realizing that psychologically she will not be able to survive another blow.
She changed the scope of activities, because she can not work with kids. Heavy. She has a lot of years, 30 years ago, and she seriously fears that she will never become a mother. And to be honest, to make more attempts to her is already unbearable.
And sometimes a woman gives up after the first failure. My former colleague was forced to make artificial childbirth. She also wanted a child very much.
But today, she said, settled in the soul devastation. Already more than 3 years have passed since the sad events in her life. But now she cannot even think of getting pregnant. And the worst thing is that she is sure that she will betray her unborn child if she leads another.
Or maybe try anyway?
It seems to me that I would, in a similar situation, still tried. After all, if you do not try, then nothing happens, that’s for sure. And so there is some chance. And even if he was no more than one percent, I would still try. It’s hard for me to imagine life without a child. For me, it makes no sense.
Moreover, it often happens in our lives that dreams come true when you no longer hope. So, a woman who has not been able to get pregnant for several years, is surprised to learn that she is already in the third month. And the one that survived several unsuccessful pregnancies still becomes a mother.
I have a girlfriend who gave birth to a daughter after four miscarriages and one ectopic pregnancy. She did not give up, got the best of her emotions, gritting her teeth, tried, suffered defeat, but did not allow herself to despair. She literally fell out of life for several years.
For her efforts, the woman was rewarded in full. She has a healthy and beautiful girl. She was born weighing more than four kilograms and without any problems during childbirth. True, my mother spent all 9 months in the hospital, on conservation. But this is such a trifle compared to the fact that someone beside you will sincerely say: Mommy, I love you, tightly!