I got pregnant when I was 40. So, at full summer, everything instantly changed. Surprise? Not that word! While my husband and I recovered after the ultrasound, our decision to leave the child caused a real boom among our relatives, friends, acquaintances and colleagues. Like, crazy, or what? Where in these years? There is a son and a daughter. You will give birth to a freak, it will be underdeveloped, the doctors frightened …
Abortion is murder
Yes, we had no hesitation. After all, literally before this, we learned that abortion is murder. Any woman – try and now kill a child of six, fifteen, thirty … Will not the hand rise? And this is how she didn’t get up at me then, even for a tiny little girl who hadn’t moved yet, but lived inside me.
What then? She gave birth in a natural way (in my ward three girls passed through cesarean). The girl is healthy and strong. Now – beauty, not a freak! Not underdeveloped, but graduated from college with a red diploma! I look at it and I think – how well that then we did not take the lead of the critics.
What pushes us to an abortion?
Why am I writing all this? Not to dissuade women who are about forty to have an abortion. This is by itself, by default. But – everyone’s business.
Another question is how to survive further when:
– the budget is clearly not designed for another family member;
– you, held in all respects a person, EVERYTHING stopped;
– you want to lie down after work, and the baby asks you to jump or read a book;
– you graduated from school a long time ago, but you need to solve complicated equations;
– friends are offended – you have no time;
– do you notice the views of classmates, and on the bus your child hears – is it your grandmother?
In short, these and similar moments – the sea! But there is a solution … I think my advice to someone will be useful …
This happiness – when there are children! Someone from people who have experienced experience, correctly said – the child will be born, and everything will be born to him. This is for sure, I have checked it – I have three, and never had any need, everything was there. Both my relatives and my approach to money helped me — I learned how to build a budget in such a way that I could even save it as a reserve. Somehow I will tell you – there is a system that worked at all times, and my children now use it.
All stopped, career covered with a copper basin?
Not true. It’s not for long. Rest and with new forces to work. During the holidays, you can read something about your profession, so as not to fall behind, and then with fresh forces and relevant information to join the work.
Yes, children are sick, interfering with our self-realization. Well, then during pregnancy and then, when the baby grows, do everything according to the rules. And even better – get ready for the fact that for the first 3-5 years (especially if the child goes to kindergarten), illnesses will distract from the career. But there are some salutary moments here – you can start making money on the Internet, there is enough work for mummies on maternity leave.
After work would lie down?
But the kid is literally marking time for you, asking to play or read? I, going from work, taking the baby from the garden, immediately tuned in to further work. Because organized the process in advance.
No, not without games, but more often they were on weekends. In order to be more often with children, I did a lot with them around the house. Yes, so that they were interested (this is also a separate topic, somehow I will tell).
In the end, no one saw me with a broom or mop — I didn’t give the kids, they swept, washed, washed and cooked themselves. By the way, my eldest daughter since 11, when I left for the session, she cooked for the whole family. How did this school come in handy in the future!
Do not worry that you are behind school
Now, when there is the Internet, the most complicated equations can be clicked like nuts (write in Answers to mail.ru or search for yourself, setting the right direction in the search)!
I haven’t been 30, or even 50. Lessons for first class are not so difficult for me. But I feel that the second will be more stressful. And nothing, we learn together. I even tuned in to English, I’m sure it will be great to know him.
Friends are offended?
Correctly do. Sometimes it is necessary to arrange fasting days! Just think over all the details, prepare in advance. Then the guests will be pleased, and you. By the way, it would be nice for families to go somewhere – to barbecue, for example, to the theater, to the cinema. Yes, there is a lot of things that will distract you and bring you closer to your friends!
Well, the views of classmates, others are not quite pleasant moments. Yes, I sometimes caught glances. Especially at the beginning. And the conductor in the transport could say our daughter, they say, is it grandfather and grandmother? The child sadly but confidently objected. No, this is mom and dad … Probably, she was sometimes embarrassed that she had such parents. But now we do not feel the difference in her age. Like girlfriends!
That is, a lot at this age and in this position depends on the mood. If he is correct, if he is prepared in advance, it is unlikely in the family – between middle-aged parents and young children – there will be hassle and misunderstandings … Configure correctly!