Are you for or against partner labor? I mean finding a husband close by for several hours before and after the birth of the baby. I hesitated for a long time. About what I chose and how it was, I want to tell readers of Alimero today.
The possibility of the presence of her husband next to his wife during childbirth appeared not so long ago. Of course, this immediately caused a storm of negative reviews. Everything new is perceived critically by our consciousness and this is not surprising.
Women have long been accustomed to sacrifice, even in such painful and difficult moments. And men do not mind. It is much more pleasant to have fun with friends in the pub, celebrating the appearance of offspring, than to spin around your wife and newborn, getting used to the new role.
When I studied at the university, one of the teachers expressed to us her unequivocal opinion that a man should not be with his wife during childbirth. She said that 60% of such couples in the future have problems in the sexual sphere of their life.
I can’t argue with that. Many times I tried to imagine how I would feel if a baby appeared in the bosom of my husband in blood and mucus. Could I then feel the sexual arousal towards my partner? Is not a fact.
But after all, the very process of the birth of a baby takes about 20 minutes? At this time, the husband can be removed from the delivery room. And what about a few painful hours before and after the birth of a baby?
Experiencing this time in proud loneliness seemed to me not quite the right decision. I would like to invite the whole family for the time of the fights, so that they entertain, massage and amuse me.
The teacher on the courses for future mothers told us that many fathers take part in the process of bringing their baby into the world with pleasure and even cut the umbilical cord. But, of course, you should ask your husband about his desire and readiness.
Our solution and experience
My husband said this: Svetulya, as you say, so be it. His eyes were filled with excitement, and in words he expressed fear and fear due to the lack of communication skills with newborns. But I wanted to give birth with him, so he meekly agreed to take part in the process.
As I wrote earlier, my daughter was born by an unplanned cesarean section. I did not have a long period of painful contractions. But I had a two-day postoperative poorly performing period.
The baby was immediately laid out on her stomach to her husband, and all subsequent days in the maternity hospital he was in my assistants. I brought the baby for feeding, went to the pediatric ward for a mixture, ran after the doctors with questions and even thanked the nurses for help in developing my breasts and preparing for breastfeeding.
I do not know what I would do alone in the hospital? Many young mummies coped on their own, but why these victims, if I have a husband?
He himself was from the first minutes with the baby, unlike me, and very proud of it. My husband was forced at one moment to overcome all his fears and take a tiny bit of pens, change a diaper or do a massage.
I am definitely for partner childbirth. It may not be the birth itself, as such, but for sharing with my husband in the hospital.
Are you for or against partner labor?