Before giving birth, we went to courses. The group got a big one. There were many couples and many moms who decided to give birth alone. We have good relations with almost everyone, so I have something to share with you. For writing this article, I even called everyone on the eve.
Perhaps, everything that is stated below is well suited for those who seem to have decided to give birth with their husband, but are still tormented by vague doubts, but what will happen next after the baby is born? Is my husband cold? Will the relationship be strained? I will try to answer these questions.
I also want to emphasize that all the fathers themselves wanted to attend childbirth. From under the stick no one forced anyone, because it is meaningless. Well, the fathers did not go to gape, but precisely to help their wives and children effectively cope with pain. Moms discussed in advance the actions of their husbands in a given situation, agreed on what to do and what is absolutely impossible.
Couples giving birth together, there were 8, we are among them. Someone’s husbands were until the very end, someone’s left with the attempts of their own will, or if the wife asked. So, what was after childbirth. Opinions of husbands were reduced to one – they did not expect that their wives are so strong and resilient. The very attitude to childbirth has radically changed. It turned out they thought that everything was much simpler.
All as one, dads were incredibly happy that they saw their baby immediately after birth, and not 5 days after discharge. One of the fathers even helped his spouse so well that the child was applied first to his stomach, and only then to his mother’s. He remembered it with pride and great love.
Do not pity fathers that were at birth?
Of the 8 dads regretted only one. They subsequently divorced because Mom found out that he was cheating on her when she was pregnant. All others are proud of themselves, their spouses and children. Now they can’t even imagine how their wives would manage without them. And they are very attentive to their children and help them care as much as possible. Rejoice in every success of the child.
What is the picture of moms who gave birth alone?
There were more of them – 12 people. 4 of them said that dads are caring for children. The rest said that fathers were attentive only in the first month of the child’s life. Then they began to shirk help from various pretexts, more often linger at work, meet with friends.
Obviously, fathers who love their family and are not afraid of difficulties will be good helpers in labor. It is also important your trust in her husband, faith in him that he will cope. Otherwise, probably, nothing will turn out, or at least it will not be the way you wanted. Well, later on they even wondered if they thought that a wife, for example, had ceased to be sexual.
I read an article by a male gynecologist, he is very famous in our city. He wrote that just in childbirth and after them, relationships are tested for strength and love. It is very important to understand the one who goes together. Popes, who value family, after giving birth, respect their wives even more. At least 7 of 8 confirmed this.