Hello dear mothers and those who are preparing to become them. I want to tell you how my first days passed after birth. Perhaps you can avoid my mistakes.
During pregnancy, I tried to avoid stress and be in a good mood. If anything and marred my day, not for long. I myself cheered myself up: I smiled at my reflection in the mirror, read funny romance, watched jokes on the Internet.
I had a feeling that when I have a bad mood, then my baby in the tummy is bad. My duty was to create a joy and a holiday for myself. I coped well with this.
But this psychological idyll ended with pregnancy. And right after the birth, I turned into a very disturbing mommy. All the problems made me panicky. With the birth of their child, there are many.
Do not worry in vain – everything will end fine!
Here are a few reasons for panic: something you have is blue, something you have it yellow. And now I’m already worried that entanglement with the umbilical cord could cause hypoxia, that the baby has jaundice.
I was worried that the midwife had incorrectly placed the daughter on the navel. And indeed, the navel then began to bleed. And begging the nurses to anoint him with green paint turned out to be difficult. Under new orders, it cannot be used to form an immunity, and the kids did not get used to alcohol in the medication.
I was very afraid of the first vaccinations that are made in the hospital. How is my baby will introduce bacteria! So what if they are weak and specially processed.
I was not very happy to all sorts of visitors, although they were people whom I love very much. I did not like the fact that they took my child in their arms and pressed them to their clothes and generously shared their germs.
I was very jealous of my baby to everyone and didn’t want to be hugged and kissed – she’s just mine. Grandmothers and grandfathers, aunts and uncles met a new relative, I could not forbid it, but my heart was disturbing. Especially when she started crying.
Only her husband was allowed everything. And I was very calm when my daughter was in his arms. The young father coped well with the child, although he had no experience. The baby immediately recognized her relatives and lay quietly in her arms.
I was so afraid to be left without the help of doctors that I didn’t really want to go home. I was not sure that I would cope with the child.
Now I understand – my behavior cannot be called normal. I am an adult woman, at the time of the birth of my daughter I was 25. I have a medical education and I could very well take care of my baby.
I do not know, it was an exaggerated maternal instinct or manifestations of postpartum depression. According to statistics, a quarter of pregnant women are faced with the problem of depression. It also darkens the first days after the birth of the child.
There are many theories of its occurrence. The reasons may be a difficult birth or hormonal alteration of the body …
How to help yourself
In my case, the constant close contact with the baby and the care of my family was enough for recovery. Caring for the baby, breastfeeding and sleeping with your daughter turned out to be an excellent medicine. Husband and relatives were very attentive and treated my state with understanding.