Does pregnancy bring joy? Yes Yes Yes! – cast the same time women. And if not? If a pregnancy, even a long-awaited one, is full of fears, if a familiar world is crumbling around, if it seems that luck has turned away forever? Sometimes it happens. In these cases, you can easily earn the disease worse than toxicosis, and it is called depression.
My friend Kati had an exemplary family: she and her husband were engaged in psychology, in the summer they went hiking, in the winter they went skiing … In short, always and everywhere together. Soon a happy event happened in their family: Katya learned that she was expecting a child. Flowers, gifts, a trip to the Czech Republic to rest … Katya just blossomed!
A few months later, having met a friend, I did not recognize her! Gloomy, tired, Kate stamped from the store with a weighty package of products. What happened? – I asked. A little bit of everything. – answered Katya. I am a useless psychologist, but I could stay as a vest, so I suggested that Kate drink coffee together.
The story I heard did not surprise me. Very similar occur with many pregnant (and not very pregnant) women. The first months, while the physical state allowed, Katya fluttered like a butterfly. But it soon became difficult for her to do her usual activities: go to parties, play sports, and the work was already a burden. Katya decided to change the schedule: to sleep more, run less and in general became much calmer. Katin’s husband agreed that his wife should take care of herself. He agreed … and went on another campaign with friends!
From that moment on, the life of loving spouses was divided: Katya spent time at home reading books and watching movies, and her husband continued to lead a normal life. Eating another green apple, Kate poured tears, because she felt infinitely lonely! Everything was complicated by the fact that Kate started repairing the apartment, and she often had to choose building materials on her own, as her husband trusted her taste.
Psychologists can make a diagnosis at a glance to everyone. Except yourself! Anxiety, depressed mood, sense of uselessness, tearfulness and irritability are all the first signs of impending depression. But Katya didn’t notice them in her room.
When I casually said that she was depressed, her friend began to doubt, and immediately carried out several simple psychological tests to identify the problem. Alas, the tests confirmed that the psychological state of a friend is far from ideal.
Fortunately, she had a mild form of mental illness, she is fully adjusted by psychotherapy, which, by the way, her husband spent. He, poor fellow, absolutely did not expect such a turn of events and felt his guilt. Depression in its advanced form is treated, even in pregnant women, with antidepressants, but, fortunately, such methods were not needed. After all, the main thing with treatment is the help and understanding of close relatives.
Her husband began to spend more time with his pregnant wife, took over most of the household chores and home improvement, and Katya finally relaxed and felt loved and protected. Which is what everyone needs, not just a pregnant woman!