There are a lot of civil marriages now. More precisely, extramarital affairs. Marriage is registered in state bodies, i.e. in the registry office, and not in words, like many.
Such a life is in any case a distrust of each other. This is still fine. Only when a woman gives birth to a man who never married her, a child, does this seem frivolous to me. And simply pity her as a woman a woman.
All these stories of women that they do not want to get married or that everything is not that time, then money for a party on this occasion, a convenient lie. I am ashamed to confess to married friends that the beloved does not offer a trip to the registry office. Only this is fine. As for me, the worst thing is that a woman in this case does not think at all about her child, his fate, upbringing.
Of course, there are more than 5 reasons to give birth to a child in legal marriage. But I’ll dwell on them not to write in the morning))) I don’t see any sense in the endless transfer, because even one of them is enough, not to mention five or more!
1. Dad everywhere and always.
In legal marriage, the father of the child will not only sound in his childish babble, but also on paper, officially. There are no questions: who is to be recorded by the father, what name to give and so on, which in the end will be typed a lot, will not arise.
It must be said that before illegitimate children were called bastards, i.e. bastards. It sounds unfocused. To be honest, I do not like it, because the child himself did not choose his fate, did not know from whom he would be born. Only for parents is another reason to think about their relationship.
2. Public opinion.
It seems to me that for many of us the opinion of us is not only distant acquaintances, but also friends and relatives. I have never been a supporter of unconditionally following the opinion of the crowd. But all the same I admit that we live in a society and it’s indecent to spit on everyone except ourselves.
Perhaps someone from close supports cohabitation without painting, but certainly not all. It will torment others. Another reason for the child’s parents to think is not only about themselves.
3. No one is immune from anything.
Now mortality is getting younger. A stroke at 30 years old has long ceased to be one in a thousand. And since no one is insured against accidents at any age.
Do not you think that a woman should think about the fact that in the event of the sudden death of her partner, she remains with her child in her arms is not legally protected? In fact, she told him no one.
Of course, their common child, if he is still recorded on his father, will receive something. Only after all in the number of heirs of the first stage includes more parents. I’m not talking about cases when it turns out that a man has a real, official wife. In short, it is not clear why complicate things.
4. In case of divorce.
In our misfortune, no one is immune from divorce either. Only to get alimony from her ex-husband is much easier than from a man with whom a woman was not married.
This reason, as for me, is the most important. A child born in a marriage is more likely to form a normal family model. From early childhood, he will know that mom and dad is a husband and wife. With such upbringing, the majority of young men who grew up from such boys will not shirk from marriage and come up with a thousand reasons why they still live for a reason.
To be honest, when I look at the reverse examples, I feel sorry that this is possible at all. Women do not value and respect themselves in a good sense of these words, and do not think about poor children and their psyche, upbringing, flaws in which they will still make themselves known in the future when it will be too late to fix something.