As a child relates to mother, relatives and strangers, depending on the age (from birth to the year)
A newborn child can not understand from the very beginning how the world works. Every time his mother takes him in his arms, the baby recognizes her smell, touch, voice, and soon begins to understand that they are followed by caress and feeding.
Thus, the child brings his mother to the limits of his small world. He can distinguish it from other people by voice, smell, affectionate touch.
At about 3 months, the child clearly recognizes her face, in which he used to catch familiar features. He also responds briskly to Mom’s approach, singling it out from other people. However, throughout the whole six months the child is friendly and smiles to everyone, and also allows everyone to keep himself on hand.
Parents are particularly pleased to hear from friends about what their child is friendly. However, against the background of general friendliness, the child gradually becomes more and more attached to his mother.
About six months the behavior of the baby is changing very much. At this time the child is very attached to his mother, he wants to see her and only her, and begins to cry at the approach of strangers. Mom becomes his safe haven. Father, grandparents can feel unnecessary. The father may be unhappy with the realization that the child does not want to spend time with him. Older relatives may be puzzled and worried that their angel is no longer glowing with joy sitting on their laps. The child does not like being away from his mother, so he begins to cry every time she is away.
In this behavior there is nothing wrong, it does not mean that the child has deteriorated. The necessary step in the development of the baby is to learn to recognize others.
During the previous months, his mother shared the sorrows and joys of crumbs, looked after him during illness, provided support in mastering his body, understood him without words. This, as well as physical contact, allowed to become the main person in the life of the child with whom he likes to spend most of his time.
Now the kid knows that apart from him and his mother there is a whole world, and is still afraid of him. Therefore, he appeals for support to the person to whom he is so strongly attached. Someone besides mother does not want to see, but this is temporary.
This phase of recognizing one’s own and others can embarrass and weary parents, but it is the norm and an indispensable condition for social and emotional development. This is the first step that a child makes on the way to learning to distinguish between others and those whom he truly loves. Also this ability will help to build strong relationships in adult life.
After 9 months: building real relationships
A child can accept restrictions, since they are imposed by those whom he so loves. He wants something to please his parents, wants to be in harmony with them, wants to be like them. Parents are associated with the child, understand the internal struggle of the child, and give him time. They are patient and at any time ready to cheer their son or daughter in their desire to behave properly.
At first the child does what he is told, only because he is reminded of it. After a while, many patterns of behavior are adopted and become natural for the child, which forms the basis of behavior in society outside the family.
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