I am engaged in martial arts for a long time, albeit with varying success. But until now, from time to time in training I get insights. Just the other day in one uncompromising battle, I realized for myself the essence of the mechanism of character education through classes.
The background of the fight
The girl with whom I had to work, turned out to be with their own concepts. I saw a couple of times how she works in the hall. She came running, without changing clothes, right in jeans and a sweater, rushes to the iron: she will lift the barbell a couple of times, wave weights three times, twitch at the simulator. Then he goes to the bag and beats him, horribly, as if wearing gloves for the first time.
And now the trainer, a grandfather of about 70, comes up to me and asks me to hold a boxing fight with this young lady. It turns out that she had already tortured him with a question, when did he release her to the competitions in the city? She, you see, is determined to win the Olympics in 2016 …
The coach and came up with an excuse – you first need to win the championship of the club. In general, we gathered at one of the training sessions and arranged for us to fight for the title of champion. I, of course, shot her in every round, stumbling into all the holes in the defense. But for myself I got a huge lesson.
Girl pearl on me tank, as horrible waving hands. And I once again lost sight of such tactics. And here the understanding came to me that even in such situations we act according to our character. For example, in my life I behave in the same way with boors – I can’t immediately give a decisive rebuff, I behave like a mother.
Immediately I remembered how my former husband spent the fights. He never climbed the rampage, tried to leave more, to catch the opportunity to attack the waste. It irritated many rivals, and now I understand – such is his character. Extremely cautious on the verge of cowardice.
How to wrap it up for good
We all know how character is brought up – through habits. As you are accustomed to act and act, so does your character. I’m used to shaking off in front of boors, until you get used to giving them a rebuff, and they will kick you morally. Accordingly, it is necessary to turn out a new habit.
You can, of course, theoretically work out options for the development of communication with the boorish interlocutor. But practice is a different matter. This is where martial arts help. Sparring or fighting is actually a character struggle at the level of gestures. Here you can work out new stereotypes of behavior to automatism.
After all, the main thing is that it is an internal decision to do or say this and not otherwise. We must build the habit of making this decision. And no matter how it is implemented – in gestures or words.
How do you such conclusions?