I think after this topic, many moms throw my slippers over me! But I believe that each child is an individual, and it is very important to find an approach to him that will ensure him a comfortable life! By the way, not only him, but his parents. You can even rephrase one famous phrase and say – calm and contented baby – happy mother!
My daughter and I broke the rules that are generally accepted. How many complaints I have heard from friends, friends and relatives! But I did everything, adjusting to the circumstances that accompanied our new life. So let’s say on a whim!
Joint dream is impossible!
How much I listened to the negative in my address about sharing a dream with my daughter, you just can’t imagine! Yes, in the first month of our life, I was absolutely determined that my baby would sleep separately. So it all began!
But my child sleeps very restlessly at night. By the way, this continues to this day, although we are already 1.6 years old. If time does not give a snack, and now drink, then all – you can guarantee 1.5-2 hours of night racing. Well, and if diapers need to be changed, that in a crib it is almost impossible without waking the child up, then you can say goodbye to a sweet dream.
For the month of our separate sleep, I did not sleep for an hour at night! I turned into a zombie, lost 7 kg, did not get any positive from motherhood at all! And one night I decided to put my daughter with me. Of course, I was very afraid that I would crush her, and at first I also didn’t sleep much. Yes, and in terms of hygiene there was a lot of excitement. But over time, everything returned to normal.
And now 1.5 years old we sleep together! Yes, of course, the dream of a child did not become perfect. But I made my life much easier – now I didn’t have to constantly stand at the crib, pull out the baby for feeding and changing diapers, and I started to sleep! Life has clearly improved, and the pleasure that you get when a baby hugs you in a dream cannot be described in words!
And let me scold – both of us are so comfortable! What is bad? Of course, problems await me further, when it will be necessary to shift an already grown-up daughter to my own bed, but this is nothing compared to the month of no sleep!
From the bottle can not feed!
I have repeatedly heard that when breastfeeding you can not feed the baby from a bottle. There is a very big risk that the child will refuse from the breast at all. Yes, and I was very afraid of this, when I began to feed my daughter sometimes from a bottle. But it was a necessary measure.
We scored very little in the first month. Doctors scolded me and said that you need to feed the mixture. But I really did not want this. Then they offered me some time to control the amount that my baby eats in a day. It was important to understand what the problem of the shortfall is in the health of the child or in the amount of my milk.
And I began to express, to see if I had any milk at all. And then I fed my daughter from a bottle. And so it was for some time – we combined the chest and bottle. And to my happiness, our breastfeeding is not over! And we successfully continued it up to 1.3 years. And my daughter always gladly accepted the bottle and the breast!
The theme of motion sickness was also acute in our family. They scolded me that I rocked my daughter, they said that later I would not wean her from it at all. But my child absolutely didn’t fall asleep unless he shook it. It was possible to lie for hours nearby, and nothing. But it was worth picking up – and after 10 minutes the baby was asleep.
I decided to break the rules that were dictated to me again, and began to rock my daughter. But within 10-20 minutes we always fell asleep. My mom fought hysterically, she said that everything is now forever, I will deprive myself of the back, and in general all this is not right. But if it was easier for us – why not !?
And I will tell you that at exactly 1 year my daughter herself refused to motion sickness – she just asked for bed, lay down and fell asleep. And from that moment on, she no longer allowed me to rock myself!
In general, as you can see, we often break with our daughter the rules that others dictate to us. But my daughter is my daughter. She is an individual and is unlike any other. And if it makes our life easier, better, more comfortable and calmer, why should we follow these imposed principles?
If my child likes to sleep with me – we will sleep together. If it is easier for her to fall asleep when I shake her – let it be so, even though my back is the same. I believe that each child needs to find his own approach, and not follow some rules!
Momma, and what did you do in spite of everything?