Finally, the snow melted and children can again delve into the sand. Due to the warm weather, the number of moms with children on the playground has increased markedly. Having observed the behavior of mummies, it suddenly dawned on me that all mummies were in fact so different. And this difference is not determined by age and social status, but rather by temperament and character traits. And perhaps, the program of education, which is incorporated in us by our parents.
Vaughn, one of the moms constantly holds her daughter by the hand or the scarf and does not give her the opportunity to run. She collects the molds behind her, lifts when she falls. But the child will soon be 3 years old! This is a pronounced mother – hen. Her daughter is a perfect, at first glance, child: she doesn’t take away other people’s toys, lets her play, doesn’t fight and does not push. But she is so too inert, or something … She doesn’t have her own point of view, she does everything, as mom will say.
The other mommy is the complete opposite of the first one: she takes the child to the playground and immediately, for the phone or with other mommies, talks non-stop and everyone about herself. She pays attention to her daughter only when she falls from the swing and cries or older boys take away her toy. Then fit, regret, but she does not break away from the conversation. This is typical. mother is a cuckoo, whose child is always in the garden, then at the grandmother. Her daughter is already closed, in itself, speaks worst of all, rarely smiles and always gives up her toys to other children who are more active and bolder.
The third mommy is just Tsarevna Nesmeyana some kind of She constantly reads morality to her son: you can’t do that, but you can. Never smile at a child, do not caress. He says that he is afraid to spoil him: I will spoil him now, and then he will sit on his neck !. Her son does not run, does not indulge, is quieter than water, lower than grass. But he is somehow unfriendly to other children, he does not laugh at all, only occasionally smiles, and his eyes are sad-sad …
Arriving home after a walk, I thought: And what type of mommies do I belong to ?. I rummaged on the Internet, and it turned out that I, it turns out, mother – investigator. Being naturally energetic and inquisitive, I constantly try to control everyone and everything (it happens unconsciously): myself, my husband, my parents, my brother, and now I started for my daughter. I have an inner need to know everything about my child in order to prevent a negative situation. I live by the principle: it is better to be outrun than to come short. Knowing about this my fad, I try not to invade the personal space of the child and not to suppress the daughter’s independence. Honestly, she has such a character that she herself will not let me suppress myself!
As it turned out, psychologists distinguish three more psychological types of moms:
Moms – Baba Yaga – those who seek obedience with intimidation: If you don’t go to bed, Babai will take you away !. In general, for each case in the arsenal of such a mother has his negative character of Russian fairy tales. As a rule, these babies begin to experience various kinds of fears, which can then result in neurological diseases (stuttering, tic, enuresis).
Moms – Snow Queens, arrogant and ambitious, who make their children too high demands, so they do not see their talents. Disappointed, they coldly communicate with their children, not trying to penetrate their little world.
Moms – Sleeping Beauties – these are narcissistic dreamers who consider that life, diapers, checking lessons are not their royal business. For this, there are grandmothers and nannies. And their role is to shine in society.
It seems to me that it would not hurt for all of us, mothers, to understand which type we belong to. In order to identify our weaknesses, our points and fix ideas and become better. After all, the most important thing for a child at all times is unconditional maternal love, free from social stamps.