Five years ago I first became a mother. Then I didn’t know much about the children – the girls wear pink, and the boys love cars, that’s all. Now, of course, I know a lot more and will be happy to share my experience with new mothers.
Never again will I buy as many toys as I did in the first years of my daughter’s life. I wanted to get everything – from rattles to a jumper horse, and my daughter played with enthusiasm … with an empty plastic bottle.
Some of them broke, others were lost, the rest are dead weight in boxes – somehow it is a pity to throw it away. And I constantly think – how much money was spent in vain. Now I know that at least half as many toys would be enough. Well, boycott is soft or the minimum number of them.
Here the situation is similar. No matter how beautiful they are – but up to half a year the child doesn’t need at all and the trousers, dresses, skirts and other adult clothes are inconvenient. Beautiful – yes, but comfort is zero, neither for mom nor for a child.
Before the introduction of complementary foods (i.e., the appearance of the first spots), it is possible to get along with a minimal number of bodybuilders and men. And for the publication one quite more or less elegant set of things is quite enough.
A lot of shoes for children up to three years is absolutely not necessary, because the foot they grow very quickly. We even had a situation when we had to buy two pairs of sandals for one summer, because the first ones were small. Yes, and small children knock shoes very quickly – white shoes turn to gray instantly, believe me already.
Common sense in this matter is the most important thing. Remember that a child’s liver ends the process of forming years to nine. And you can only guess about the detrimental effect of the abundance of drugs with or without the children’s body.
As for myself, I use a minimum of medicines for my daughter. I absolutely do not perceive cough syrups as medicine. And if I buy, it is not based on herbs, but with synthesized active substances.
The golden rules that must be written at the exit from the hospital and the entrance to the children’s clinic: Antibiotics are powerless against viral diseases and there are no drugs from viruses. There are many preparations from the series just in case to strengthen the immune system, but their effectiveness is similar to a random generator.
The minimum of bans is very important. Imagine yourself in the place of a child who can’t touch anything, cannot walk anywhere, and even try to taste the wheels of a wheelchair. It’s impossible to do it all, often on raised tones.
Now, we have banned only what is a real danger to the life and health of the daughter. I turned the rest of the prohibitions into permissions; I simply removed the others from the child’s sight.
After all, it is much easier to remove medicines, detergents, cosmetics, etc. to an inaccessible place, than to worry every time — and not whether the baby Domestos would drink or to complain about Ah, again she painted the walls with my new lipstick.
Do not believe it, but for five years I only once had an incident with the damage of my cosmetics. And that happened last week – because my sister-in-law rashly left her eyeliner on the table, and my daughter confused him with a pencil for drawing. My cosmetics are not cheap and it is better for me to take it away, than it is impossible to repeat monotonously.
Another important tip is to be at arm’s length from a child for up to three years. To always be able to control his movements. There are many dangers around – from swings to cars. We also had sad incidents, but we will not talk about them. The main thing is to always control the location of the child and be able to control his movement.
Another important rule for me is: Not a mother with a child, but a child with a mother. Still, the main parents in the family, not the baby, and the mother needs to take a shower or eat, and my daughters play, I will choose the first.
And what conclusions did you draw after the first five-year plan? Do you agree with my advice?