Oh, and my son screaming! In the hospital, I thought he did not know how to cry. Born – squeaked a little and calmed down. Feed brought – never cried. True nurse revealed to me a secret. Says: In the children’s ward, it’s still screaming. They came home, he showed us the power of his vocal cords.
When the son began to move actively, we all agreed, not to gasp, if he fell, not to run immediately to his aid. However, he cried, always when he fell. And still we have tears – quite frequent visitors.
1. Patience. For example. The situation is this: the son does not want to go to the bathroom. And by two years they do not want anything at all, if this is not their initiative. Persuade, wait a little. I am trying to send to the bathroom, from which the son immediately becomes like a rag doll.
So, time is running out, I do not want to put bed to bed, so I take it in my arms and carry it in the shower. The cry is worth such that the ears are laying. The main thing is calm. My, of course. My, I water, I try to talk to him. Screams. Take out of the bath, wipe. Screams. I cover him up with a towel and cover his face with a corner (this is our usual game). Everything. Silence. We leave from the bath, the son already shouts: Dad! and offers his dad to look for him: Where? Where? Happily throws back the towel: Ku-ku! So what, I ask, shouted?
2. Ability to distract. What a joy that children are easily distracted! This is a very convenient psychological tool for parents. Distract the child from something and immediately understand how to do it right:
– crying stopped
– the child’s nerves (and ours too) do not suffer
– the parent does not torment the conscience due to the fact that he could not resist
However, the older the child becomes, the more you have to try to distract him. Well, we will not stand on the spot. We will develop.
Our little victories
By the way, my daughter had the same scoop. Falling – crying, at the sight of someone else’s mustache uncle – in a cry, in the hospital at the sight of a syringe – hysterics. Once she even had to cancel her treatment (she had to treat bronchitis with pills).
Constantly heard from relatives: she herself spoiled. It is good that I didn’t really listen to such statements and just waited: outgrow. By the way, when she got older, it turned out that it was not so easy to knock a tear out of her.
By the way, now the son is often not crying when he falls, but will simply say to Bo-bo and give me a sore spot so that I can rub it.
After we were in the hospital, he began to cry at the sight of any medical facility. And in all unfamiliar places behaved wary. If a stranger began to actively pester him, he could suddenly cry out loud.
Gradually, in a few months, everything went by. Just finished a course of massage in the clinic. For the first two days, he barely wound him up on the porch of the hospital and into the office, and then everything worked out. He lay, entertained me and the masseuse with his chatter. Matured, however)
It so happens that I have very impressionable and sensitive children. In fact, I was the same as a child. So why be surprised?
The child who fell, got up and ran further – for me a being incomprehensible and unusual. Well, okay. I just gather all my patience into a fist and wait. I do not break, do not try to knock out the wedge with a wedge. Love for the child and a sensible approach to the problem always give good results.