The worst and bitter for parents – problems with the health of children. When the diagnosis of doctors seems to be a sentence that crosses out the normal life of the child, moms are especially hard to cope with overwhelming emotions. The first questions that arise in such situations: What is it for me? Maybe this is not true? How could this happen to my child? then give way to apathy and deep depression. It seems to mothers that everything is over, life is over and nothing can be done – after all, the worst thing that could have happened is already happened.
Unfortunately, there are no psychological support services for parents with special children (disabled children) in our country, and every woman has to find a way out of such situations on her own. It is important to find the strength to live on, first of all for the sake of your child. After all, special children are in dire need of a strong mother.
I know many women who are beginning to look guilty for what happened and most often blame themselves, especially if the child has congenital pathology or birth trauma. You do not need to do this! It happened as it happened. One should not get stuck on what was, but look to the future with hope and apply maximum efforts to help his child and ease his condition. No need to close yourself in your grief – force yourself to do at least something. Knit, embroider, sculpt – give an opportunity to show your creative start. Keeping a diary, correspondence with mothers who are in a similar situation can help to get out of depression.
In no case do not need to refuse treatment – on the contrary, make maximum efforts so that good specialists start treating your child as soon as possible. The earlier treatment is started, the better your baby will be. But if you apply to traditional healers, then only in parallel with medical treatment. Of course, there are healers who are really able to help (I personally met such people), but there are very few of them. Most often we get to ordinary charlatans who earn money on human grief.
Of course, a special child is the special life of a mother. Almost always the child needs constant supervision, the mother has to adjust her daily routine to his needs, to refuse the profession. But if you look at everything from a different angle – often these very children bring a lot of joy to their parents and give them the opportunity to realize all the abilities and talents. The main thing – do not give up!