I will not go into details and recall the difficulties with nursing the youngest. This is all in the past, now only about positive.
It all depends on the woman.
So, you have two babies, and each mother is tormented by the question of how not to deprive not only children, but also her husband, so that this husband, not afraid of difficulties, does not run away. The youngest child will at first require increased attention, but only in terms of maintenance. During this period, make the older child an ally and assistant. Dedicate your child all the free time: cook together, eat, clean, do housework, draw, read, just sing.
But not so much that you run around shaggy and frightened around the house, with the goal of quickly stuffing all the toys in places, and the phrase constantly sounds: Have you collected toys? Come quickly! And in the form of a game. Here our teddy bear sits on a plane and flies to his chest, and this rabbit arranged a competition with a dog and now we will find out who will get to the locker first.
About lack of sleep
Recently, on the playground, one young mother said twice: The second must be given birth, until I forgot how to stay awake at night. The body of any woman, during motherhood, seems to be programmed for a short sleep and frequent awakenings at night. I didn’t have sleepless nights with either the elder or the younger.
Yes, the child woke up, but I took him to my side and, breastfeeding, I fell asleep with the baby. It allowed me to get enough sleep and feel great in the morning. Not having time to forget what it was to get up at night with the older child, the second baby doll arrived in time. It is worth noting that the youngest is so calm and quiet (it was up to a year) that there were no problems with my lack of sleep at all.
The eldest, when the second child appeared in the house, due to his childhood, did not have time to understand what he was used to and quickly, that the mother would surely do what he asked for, but not immediately, but in a minute. There was an interest to touch and play with the little one, while there was always the presence of adults.
Of course, if you plan to devote all the time to the smaller one, this will in one way or another generate jealousy and dissatisfaction of the older child, therefore, engaging in the crumbs, invite the senior to be with you as an expert. It is an expert: What do you think, what kind of vest to wear little brother? Oh, I can not get the sliders out on the bed, feed, please. You would see these little eyes. Shine and sparkle, consult with him, listen to him.
One way or another, you cannot do without adult help. In my case, the husband became an ally. There was a period of worn out tracksuit, and disheveled hair and anger, followed by grunts. Men do not like phrases You do not help me. I’m tired. I’m so tired from everything. So let’s get rid of it. Simply and specifically say what you want.
I need a hairdresser, what day can I sign up for? Oh, something brittle nails, I’m going to a manicure at the weekend, okay? If you get over your husband, take him and the children with you, you are in the salon, and he and the children in the park. I went even further – arranged the MAMINA DAY. It sounds loud, it’s not all day, but only 2-3 hours, but my personal time.
At first, she left the peasants and the pope for a short time, for about an hour with a clear plan of action. The youngest at that time was about 9-10 months old. Then the period of my absence increased. You will not believe, dad managed! And I thought that such an indispensable, it is worth going beyond the threshold – the children are not fed, the dishes are not washed. Nothing like this. But I could put myself in order.
Not without property redistribution. Children will always share toys. I made a mistake for a long time and tried to understand their conflicts. You should not do this if the case has not gone too far (the use of physical force), give the children the opportunity to figure it out on their own.
When the kids come to any opinion, your comment is required. Focus on the fact that the toy is too dear to the brother (no matter older or younger) and that, before taking, it is better to ask permission. But you have to buy toys in two copies – this is the real solution to the problem.
Make it a rule: they took the youngest in their hands, do not forget about the elder, and at the same time a compliment to her husband, because the socks went to the laundry basket, and the bread, which he forgot to buy, will allow you not to gain extra 100 grams.
This is generally a separate conversation. I can only say that without a stroller it is difficult, since the long distance to the eldest child is not yet subject to, and it is difficult (in my opinion) to carry the youngest into a kangaroo. You should have a drinking and food supply.
Do not rush to be tormented by doubts. The truth is said, the time will come and the desire I want the child to silence all worries.