By education I am a teacher, therefore, like no other, I imagine the scale of the development of the problem of single-parent families. And many do not even consider this a problem. One of my friends, for example, plans to have a child for herself. To pay tribute to fashion, I suppose.
At the same time, she proudly raised her head, declares: I will bring up a real man! It’s a sad fact, but when such a statement comes from the mouth of a woman who is disappointed in a strong half of humanity (from the experience of communicating with two of six million), it’s hard to believe in the success of such a dubious idea.
Incomplete families, in my deep conviction and life experience, are potential problems for our children’s family life. And not only family. The reason is simple: the child’s self-esteem is many times lower if he does not receive sufficient attention from the parents.
And how, pray tell, can this attention be enough when mom comes home from work tired, annoyed and rushes to the housework?
A boy who grew up in a family where a woman drags everything on his shoulders and has no idea who the real man is – the protector, the security provider, the mentor. By the way, families in which a man is on the sidelines, where he does not have the right to vote and authority (for which we women are responsible too), also have a detrimental effect on children.
Humiliating remarks addressed to the Pope, condemnation, caustic remarks – do children really not hear all this? Growing up, our sons consider themselves to be people of a lower grade, because, alas, they have absorbed this truth with their mother’s milk. And the girls remembered the negative: All men are the same!
How, tell me, can you believe in a prince on a white horse, if your beloved mother (the highest authority up to a certain age) says that there are no such people?
I think everything: is it because the behavior of a real gentleman will soon have to be put in the Red Book?
I understand perfectly well that families are incomplete for reasons that could not be changed. But, you see, the divorces that have become so commonplace in our time – this is just a disaster for children’s hearts and destinies. And we, adults, find a sea of reasons and a lot of explanations why this step needs to be done.
The reason and … solution!
The truth remains simple, and it lies in the short word of egoism. Pretty women, the fate of our little and not very kids depends on us. We keep the hearth! This is our responsibility!
And men – they remain big boys, for them everything is the same as in childhood, a gentle female voice is desired, which does not tire of inspiring and encouraging them, and also the endless belief that they will succeed in everything. Staying at the same time in the background, quiet (when I want to shout) and patient (when I want to smash everything), we will win the invaluable status of the Perfect Wife.