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My problems in raising a child, kids

I can confess honestly: I am not an ideal mother. Sometimes I fall for a child, and then I regret it. Sometimes I do not understand him and scream because of his disobedience and constant whims.

True happiness for me

For me, great happiness is the understanding of my child, which happens, to be honest, very rarely. I really want us to not have screams and tantrums. But it so happens that the baby is capricious, and I am busy and I can not give it enough attention. If the husband were there, he would judge that yes how. And so, it turns out that the son remains in the education of his grandmother and does not receive parental attention.

Unfortunately, there is no universal textbook on child rearing. After all, all people are different, and kids, respectively, too. Yes, and if you bring up children in the same way, they still grow up completely different people, I’m sure of it.

And this textbook (Universal Education, for example) is unlikely to ever appear. Many psychologists, talented educators and parents with many children write books about their experiences. They develop their own methods, which, in their opinion, perfectly educate and develop the baby.

How to raise a child

Maybe I’m not the right mother, I will not argue. I do not sit at home with the baby, I went to work, and with my son my mother and grandmother are sitting. Naturally, free time for him is an evening after work and days off.

I ask the advice of girlfriends. Many of them take the kids to classes in the developing center, others just sit at home and play. All of them are trying to buy new-fashioned toys and constructors for them, just to keep them busy.

Lack of attention

I feel,
that my son (almost 2 years old) lacks attention. Yes, he is still small. But at this age (and earlier) children were already sent to the nursery. It was necessary to raise the country, and women work and work. Now life is different, but I need to work, since I don’t hope much for my husband.

What am I supposed to do? How to pay attention to the child when I come home from work? I do not grab for household chores, but I run to him: I try to play toys with him at home, stay on the street, walk together. It seems everything is like that, but I feel guilty before my son, or something.

So it turns out that I compensate for the lack of maternal attention with toys, sweets. Some say it is difficult to spoil the children. And others say that it is very easy to grow, thus capricious and always demanding an egoist.

I love my child, but I don’t see a clear line where I need to say: Stop playing about it. Mom here is me, for example. Here, in many ways, it is precisely the father’s word and advice that is lacking. And the husband is on the earnings, then tired just sleep at home and leave again.

Tell me, do you know such mistakes in parenting? How did you find your way out? I am sometimes completely confused and do not know what to do.

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