I can say with full confidence that the birth of a son radically changed me. And everything that I thought about during pregnancy turned out to be just plans. The main thing – a small lump, which was near and quietly snuffled.
Before the birth of my first child, I could afford a lot. These were meetings with friends and girlfriends, and dates with a loved one. Then we went to a cafe, cinema, theater. No, I do not regret at all, I just remember our meetings.
I also studied on time and quite successfully passed the sessions. Then she worked and worked as a nanny. But the main thing was that I belonged to myself and could manage my time. I called a friend and invited me to her – I could safely go and not worry about something. Disco or birthday is the same.
Now, like in my childhood, I have to ask for leave to go home. And mom and son. This man is not always ready to let me go. Much has changed since his birth. Not only the rhythm of my life, but also the attitude towards life, people. It is thanks to my son that I understood what motherly love is, a full-fledged family. In general, I found my, female, happiness.
But not everything was so smooth and sweet. At first, for a long time I could not come to my senses and finally realize what had happened. You know, it’s like in a movie, everything goes slowly. And it was difficult for me to adapt to my new status. Of course, I was preparing myself for the fact that I would become a mother and I would not have the old charms. But this preparation, as it turned out, was not effective.
In the maternity hospital and after him was my mother. When I lost consciousness, she was always there and held my hand. It was she who first saw my son. But when she went home (she looked after her grandmother and cooked for her), I was seized first by a light, and then a strong, panic.
And then I panicked for any reason: the baby does not take the nipple, hiccups, belches. Homes added: washing, cooking, cleaning. I absolutely did not have time, was angry, did not get enough sleep and tired. I had nowhere to do with my anger, and I won back on my wife, but he is not to blame for anything.
Relationship with husband
I have it golden. Throughout the pregnancy, he was near, tolerated changes in my mood, whims and cavils. And after the birth, the son tried to support as best he could: hug, kiss, soothe. He understood that it was difficult for me, that I was getting tired and tried to make it so that I could sleep an extra hour. At this time (mostly for the weekend) he cooked and cleaned.
Then he played with the baby and took him out for a walk. The appearance of a son has changed us both. I can say that I have changed for the better. Both externally and internally. I have become kinder, more patient. My son gave me the happiness I missed. And my husband began to love me more, I think. When they play together or repair something, I admire them: these are 2 of my most beloved men in the world! And no one else is needed, only the three of us!
Meetings with friends
Of course, I had to forget about it for a while. But how long can a man sit in a confined space, within four walls? I am not a homebody and always be unbearable at home. Therefore, I often walked with a stroller: it is also useful for a child (he slept so sweetly) and I could even look at people.
Then, of course, I could leave the child with my mother or husband and meet with girlfriends. We could chat, something fun to discuss, but I was drawn home with terrible force. I missed and worried about my son. Attachment, tremendous love and care – this is what I felt.
After the baby is born, everything changes. Like everyone, I have bags under my eyes and tiredness from chronic lack of sleep. But you can not be lazy, for men you should always look good. I began not only to bring myself to full order in the morning, but also to dress as if I was going on a date.
And how has your life changed after the birth of a child? Have your relationships and the rhythm of life changed?