Since Soviet times, women have been frightened by the underdevelopment of late children. Born by mom after 30 is almost certainly a child with disabilities. Now medicine has advanced far ahead, and even at 40 women are calmly taking this step. Is everything so clear now in this state of affairs?
My personal situation
In spite of the fact that my personal life does not at all dispose to the birth of a child, I’m persistently dreaming about the second. Least. The other day, I, so to speak, turned 35, but in the near future, I suspect, personal life is unlikely to have to replenish the family.
But morally I am ready for such a step. Little by little, I am collecting relevant information about the dangers that await my mother, whose heyday has long passed. Especially inspired by examples of acquaintances. One young lady at 38 became pregnant, although they did not plan more children with her husband.
A friend at work a woman in 40 gave birth to twins. Directly realized my dream! So, from somewhere, I got the confidence that I would have at least one more child. And better two. In the meantime, circumstances did not work out in an appropriate way, I think about how best to organize the first years of life and what dangers lurk me.
Dangers and their overcoming
So, first of all they talk about the danger to the health of the baby. They say that the aging body of the mother can not provide it with everything that is needed, so he is born with disabilities. It does not scare me at all. Compared to a number of young mothers, I lead a fairly healthy lifestyle.
Therefore, I am sure that my body at 35 is much healthier than some at 24. Once a gynecologist from a private clinic told me that in terms of health, there is one danger – various chronic diseases become more acute with age. It may be just hard for mom during pregnancy and lactation.
So while there is an opportunity, we lick old wounds. In terms of night vigils, I do not worry at all. If with the first child for me it was a real shock, now it is even the norm of life. It will be quite easy for another child to fit into it.
But the physical and organizational side of the case is not limited. It turns out that there is a danger from the side of education. As a rule, late children are taken care of by moms too zealously. No matter how many children she already has, the youngest is small because she has all the attention and care.
This is a purely psychological moment that you need to know, take into account and constantly monitor yourself. Otherwise, then, no matter how talented such a child is, he grows up unadapted to life, cannot realize himself. Although crazy mother’s love usually does not want to notice it.
I do not want such a life. Therefore, before giving birth to another child, I want to not just find a fascinating occupation. I want to start an activity that would bring money and absorb some of my energy and attention. The child must be able to overcome some difficulties, and also see that the mother has something else that is very important besides himself.
What do you think, what else can wait for mom in age?