There are many reasons why a child is raised not by parents, but by grandparents. This and the deprivation of parental rights, followed by the establishment of custody, and the death of parents, but very often mom and dad are so busy with business or creativity that the child simply prevents them from expressing themselves and achieving success.
In this case, the child goes to the grandparents’ house, and the biological parents periodically visit him, donate gifts, take him to exhibitions and to the theaters, in general, from time to time they perform their parental duties.
Let’s ponder, is it really so bad grandma-grandfather’s upbringing. I, like my grandfather, who is raising a granddaughter with his wife, have a very definite opinion on this matter. In order to more clearly and clearly mark it, I will try to present it in the form of a thesis with some comments.
Let’s keep in mind that grandfather and grandmother truly love their grandson or granddaughter, a child is not a burden for them, and they really want to bring up just a good person. • Current grandparents are quite young. Many become them, barely stepping over the fortieth year. They are full of energy, they fully work and successfully conduct business. Many people love and can afford to travel and keep abreast of fashion trends.
But they have one advantage over the same energetic, but twenty years old people. Life experience and well-established views and principles. Both grandmother and grandfather will raise a child, remembering all the mistakes that they made in raising their children.
And these mistakes were many. After all, it is known that parents know best how to raise children. And no one needs advice. And with the advent of the grandchildren, the views change and in their own children the features that the grandchildren would not want to discover are clearly visible.
Complete nonsense that grandmother and grandfather pamper their grandchildren. This happens only if their meetings occur once or twice a month. With daily communication, the educational process is often even more severe and severe than that of the parents themselves. And the reason is still the same – the desire to invest in grandchildren that which mothers and fathers could not inculcate.
Real-thinking grandparents are perfectly aware that the child does not need to regret, it must be LOVED. And love is not feeding chocolates and indulging whims. To love a child is to teach him to think reasonably and independently make the necessary decisions, respect his relatives and relatives, and, most importantly, himself. To love is just to love and instill in him the belief that those who love him will never be repelled. And what balm spills on the heart when you notice the first glimpses of mutual feeling!
The great science fiction Ray Bradbury said that childhood should in no case be cloudless. And the ancient Greeks said that if you want to grow a worthless person with constant problems – let the child do whatever he wants. To my great regret, I, like most of my grandfathers, understood these truths only when the two-year-old granddaughter was on our grandmother’s hands. But this does not mean that it is necessary to artificially create difficulties for the child and prohibit everything for the sake of the prohibition process itself.
You just bring up your grandchildren more rationally and thoughtfully, more intelligently. And the rigidity in some matters is not the cruelty that the grown-up granddaughters will face, who have not learned the basic rules of life.
My wife and I noticed that my granddaughter was watching TV mostly sitting on our couch, and not on her own. At one time they tried to wean her off – without any result. My classmate, now a fairly successful psychologist, explained the whole problem to me in a nutshell. She loves you, wants to be longer with you, and your bed feeds her with additional energy.
Is it possible to hear something more pleasant for a person for whom mother, wife and granddaughter are the most precious thing that only exists? And, if the closest people are a grandmother and a grandfather for a child, in ninety-nine cases, you can be sure that they will grow up from a toddler a decent, sensible, responsible person. And, most importantly, – who knows how to love loved ones.