Recently reviewed the photos of his son. At one of them he is only a couple of months old, my mother holds him in her arms. And it immediately came to mind that after those days when my grandmother got carried away carrying her grandson in her arms, I started having problems. The child did not want to be let down, he cried, was capricious, and I did not know what to do with it.
Up to this point, the son was very calm, and if I put him in a bed or on a sofa, he took it absolutely adequately. Of course, even then my husband and I carried him in our arms, but with breaks. When he spent a long time on his hands, he really liked it.
To attribute such behavior to the whims or manifestations of character then was absurd, because the child was too small to understand at least something in the manipulation. And I decided that my son just did not have enough heat. He feels safe in his arms, he is so much calmer and warmer.
Having decided to endure, I began to devote all my free time to my son. His weight was small, so he didn’t take much from me. While he was sleeping, I managed to do the rest of the household chores.
When you can disaccustom the child
Over time, I had a dilemma. I did not know when it was necessary to wean a child from the hands so that this habit would not turn into ordinary manipulations. The son slept less and less, and weighed more and more. It was becoming more difficult to carry it in my arms, and part of the work was constantly being transferred to the next day. Sometimes I used the help of relatives. Fortunately, they willingly agreed to sit with the baby.
When the son learned to sit and began crawling, the existing problem began to disappear by itself. His interest in the world grew, and this stimulated him to independence. He began to ask for his hands less and less. I only needed to support his desire to be active and more independent.
At this age (6-8 months) it is easiest to wean the child away from the hands. It is enough just to be there, and be able to interest him. And everything will turn out by itself. After all, he is surrounded by so much new and unexplored, that sometimes, on the contrary, attempts to take the baby in his arms begin to cause him some dissatisfaction.
The child has grown up. But even now there are times when my half-and-year-old son starts crying and asking for his hands. In this case, first of all, I find out the reason for this behavior: the child is hungry, unwell, frightened, wet or something else. Moreover, it is necessary to determine quickly, until tears and requests turned into a tantrum.
If a good reason exists, I make an exception, and take the baby. But this does not cause him to sit on his hands, but only helps him to solve the problem. The main thing is to know the measure and understand your crumb.