Why does this happen: a man is already at the age, he has long dreamed of a child, but when a long-awaited first-born appears, he completely abstracts from him? After all, now all psychologists confidently declare that the child needs care not only of the mother. It is extremely important for the baby to also feel the care from the father!
It turned out so with me. Planned long-awaited baby was born. And – lo and behold! The father is overwhelmed with work, a lot of questions, new plans and horizons, a nepahanaya is targeted, and so on … Well, of course, because now my daughter has appeared – you need to earn more money!
Next to no relatives, with the newborn baby had to do everything herself. And I had no time left for myself, not so much for cooking and cleaning the apartment. But I tried – and there was something in the fridge, and the apartment was always clean, and things were stretched and pressed …
Well, I just had to sleep less. Maybe his face looked paler, the circles under his eyes … But so what? It is necessary to powder a little before going out for a walk, apply a blush, shine on the lips – and mom is always fresh and beautiful!
To live in such a rhythm is not easy. And, of course, I want to feel the support of a loved one. Even if the precious spouse has a job, there are still weekends, holidays. So what? At the weekend – after a corporate party hangover or evening relaxation at the TV with a battery of beer bottles … And during the holidays – the disease. Yes, what! Temperature 36.4 – a breakdown! … How we love ourselves!
Fortunately – I do not measure my temperature, otherwise I would have thundered to a hospital with a heart attack long ago!
For several months I was tormented and offended – as it is possible! After all, not only I need help with bathing a baby, swaddling, playing, leaving, street walks. A child must feel the care and anxiety of his father from an early age.
Of course, the merit of men in the extraction of money – is huge! But what will I do with bills, when a child suffers from colic even when my diet is tough ?! And she cries from 6:00 pm to 3:00 am every day for several months. And at the same time you need to buy a baby, and take a walk on the street for at least a couple of hours, and cook and eat, and wet cleaning and much, much more.
When I recovered a little from what was happening, I began to actively act. I discovered hitherto unknown qualities of character to me. For example, cunning. In order to attract a careless father to walks with a child, I convinced him that I urgently need to increase my nails, otherwise going to his friends for a visit is impossible. And friends want to see the firstborn! I had to grow.
Since then, I have legally left my four-month-old daughter in the care of my husband once every 3-4 weeks. Of course, he was unhappy and constantly hurried me, saying that you could do there for so long. And I convinced him and persuaded him that nails were a necessity. Number passed almost a year.
Of course, every time I heard that the last time my father stayed with the child, that my nails should be removed immediately, but after a month I managed to be persuaded by the barter method – I would type your documents on the computer on your computer, if you spend a couple of hours with the child
I now did not rub the floors every day. They were rubbed by my husband (albeit not every day), because I was scolding over my repair and brand-new laminate (I used to understand this before!).
A bright holiday has come – Easter! We decided to go to visit my husband’s friends. And they manage to do everything with two children. I also wanted not to lose my face and bake pasca. I decided not to suffer with troublesome yeast pascakes and came up with my improvised!
In a cake pan, I baked a marble cake I was used to (on soda), turned it over, poured it with protein glaze and sprinkled with colored balls. Charm! Simple, fast and original. And most importantly – very tasty.
I didn’t burn for long, but my husband needed to be with the baby (we agreed in advance). When it all came down to it – screams again – let’s finish soon! In the answer – yes, now, a little bit left. I do not have enough eggs for dough, and I quietly run to the nearest store – a couple of minutes.
Plus, five or ten minutes in the queue to stand … I come – silence – her husband mocked the baby in her arms and she fell asleep! Instead of thunder and lightning, a happy, radiant face on which I was written! …