When a second child is born, you begin to understand that everything that existed before is a sanatorium and a rest house simultaneously in the square. But with the two already do not relax.
My children have a difference of 2.5 years, so it was a little easier. In the first months I thought with horror and sympathy about those who have less difference. And one of my friends gave birth to twins, when her daughter was 1.5 years old!
The most important thing for a mother to cope with first of all is jealousy. I am lucky that the eldest child is a girl. Apparently, the maternal instincts in her were immediately strong, so there was no aggression and resentment, only interest and desire to care.
However, I also want to suck a pacifier, I also want to go in a wheelchair, wrap me in a diaper, mother, and do not let us shake. What to do? Indulge.
Give a pacifier, carry on a wheelchair, swaddle and swing. Then the child will understand that, firstly, he is no worse than a baby, and, secondly, that lying with a pacifier in the mouth is not as interesting as running, jumping and playing.
Still need to cope with feelings of guilt in front of children. Before the senior, that you give him so little attention, before the younger, that you have less time to admire him, to enjoy achievements, and to replace the described pants even in time, and it happens.
It is necessary to understand – this is temporary, and will last a maximum of a year, and two wonderful children, family people will remain with you and with each other for life. Then you will understand how fun it is for them to play together, now your child does not rush in alone and does not stick to play with me, mother.
Well, housework – cleaning, washing, cooking, let them recede into the background.
If there is no one to help, you need to make a clear plan of action: she fed the child, he was alone for 15 minutes – during this time she washed the elder, made beds, put the younger one under the mobile – during that time she fed the elder with porridge and removed the diapers from the dryer, etc. .
Of course, I had to forget about the daytime sleep that I loved so much in the first year, the regimes in children did not match, but for two months now, as I sleep in the afternoon with the children, the youngest one has passed one day’s sleep.
When the younger one began to sit well, it became easier with bathing, now I shoved two children in the bath at a time. And the eldest such assistant, though still small, always looks after her brother, pampers him – both at home and on a walk.
You can keep up, you just need to become a little more reactive and prudent, do not forget to take motherwort, and still not forget that in addition to children, there is also a big child – a husband who is also jealous, requires attention and care.