With the godmother for her son, we decided immediately. But the godparents did not agree to become such. We were even desperate, because we wanted to baptize on the feast of Epiphany and the time was running out. The reasons for which men did not want to be godparents, we learned later.
This is a terrible word we learned when we came to the church for the first time. It means learning the basics of the Christian faith. It turns out that before the baptism, the catechism must be passed. In addition to the godparents, there must be at least one parent.
Fortunately, all this is happening now in the evening and, in some churches, on weekends during the day. It takes all this about 2 hours of time. The process itself is reminiscent of a Sunday Christian school. Future godparents and parents gather in a small room, the lesson begins. The story is from the time of Adam and Eve.
And I sit and think that in the room there are not children who have known everybody for a long time! In addition to general information, the catechist is talking about what a Christian family should be, and also expresses his personal opinion about certain life situations. About how the process of baptism is literally a couple of words for 10 minutes.
As it was before?
It turns out, just a year ago, everything was different. The process of catechesis took far not 2 hours. It was necessary to come to church for several days in a row, and during working hours. Now I understand why many men refused to be godparents. Not everyone agrees.
What is all this for?
Explain, please, why so young parents load? They already have enough cases to do, and here they also need to dangle with their godparents. All these moralizing. Why are they? After all, far from becoming children are the godparents, but formed individuals with their own views on life.
Want to provide a greater arrival in the church and in 2 hours of time turn the attitude towards faith in your head? For me, they only make it worse. Looking for my godfather, I realized that now you don’t drag anyone into any church for any price.
And most importantly, faith is something in people and good. But the attitude to the church itself leaves much to be desired!
After such a serious approach, listened to a lecture on family Christian life, you expect some unusual sensations and feelings at Baptism. That’s just not only that the parents were not allowed, closing the door in front of his nose. But the prayers were read so quietly that no one understood anything.
Godfathers and babies drove like on a conveyor belt, although there were only 11 children. I was shaking like a mother. My baby is in the hands of people unfamiliar to him. Plus, neither one nor the other has his own children – they simply don’t know how to handle them.
Probably, my feelings were transmitted to my son, he was one of the first to cry, he was called to help dad. I felt a little easier. On father’s hands, the son calmed down, warmed and fell asleep.
After the children were allowed, and mothers, to read the prayer. I was still waiting for some sublime sensations, but I did not wait. Especially when I saw with some disdain the evidence of baptism was thrown. Pipeline, the most real, forgive, Lord.
In such cases, I always take myself in hand by the fact that I believe in heavenly help, but what the church does is left to its conscience. It’s not up to me to decide what is right and what is not. The time will come and we will all be responsible for our actions.
How difficult it is to baptize children! ©
And everything really worth is always difficult, because it requires labor.
Now I understand why many men refused to be godparents. Not everyone agrees. ©
Being godmother is a duty to the child for life. If a person does not agree to spend several hours preparing for Baptism, it is worth thinking about how he can become a godmother. Only in such a way that for a tick. Such a person will not give the child proper attention and time.
Explain, please, why so young parents load? They already have enough cases to do, and here they also need to dangle with their godparents. ©
Nobody loads anyone. Do not want loads, do not start a case. And started, so what complaints? It’s like saying – why do I load in the store by standing in line at the cashier when I want to eat? Every process has its own order.
All these moralizing. Why are they? After all, far from becoming children are the godparents, but formed individuals with their own views on life. ©
First, not moralizing, but the most minimal overview of the information you need to know. If you know them, so much the better. The fact that you listen again will not become worse. And if you do not want to know – it is not clear why they came there.
Secondly, if the formed views on life do not correspond to those voiced during the catechism, then the more confusing is the meaning of the desire for baptism. Man is a rational being (though not always) and should do what he understands, and not mindlessly.
My baby is in the hands of people unfamiliar to him. Plus, neither one nor the other has his own children – they simply don’t know how to handle them. ©
Maybe it would be worth introducing godparents to a child before the sacrament? Take a walk at least a couple of times, so they ponyanchilis. How to invite for such a responsible business people who have not seen and do not know how to deal with your child.
I believe in heavenly help, but what the church does is left to its conscience. ©
Then you do not need to go to church.
My husband and I somehow historically developed that in some difficult situations, the returns are more from acquaintances and friends, and not from relatives and especially godparents. And one hundred percent none of them taught us the Scriptures and did not instruct on the True Path. In this regard, it was not so important for us who it would be for a child. Life is too long to rely constantly on any one person. Simply put, we do not place too much responsibility on godparents. It was important for us that the baby was baptized. We baptized him at the age of just over a month, the future godparents did not have the opportunity to communicate with the child for a long time. I understand why the mother is not allowed to be baptized, but why was the father allowed only after the heart-rending crying baby? Okay. Let it go. In any case, everything ended well for us.