It is believed that the name affects the fate of a person. Probably, in this belief there is some sense. Only, rather, the influence is not the name itself, but its sound. After all, the power of sound in relation to man has long been proven. Suffice it to recall the lullabies of the mother or the psychological suggestions through the selection of the right words and intonation.
Name – the code of fate?
Modern scientists claim that the name is a certain code of a person’s psychic structure that influences his character. Some researchers put forward the theory that the preference of a particular name is the action of unknown forces that affect the subconscious of parents who are expecting a baby.
I do not know, I believe in all such forces with difficulty. But the fact remains. In most cases, the parents’ opinion on the name changes dramatically when a woman finds out that she is in the position. In other words, she wanted her son’s whole life Vanya, and when she was born, she called her Arthur. Practically all my acquaintances and friends were exactly like that.
Here are just parents who are waiting for the birth of the baby, hardly think about the theories and hypotheses of scientists. In most cases, the choice of the child’s name is the result of some personal preferences, the consonance of a particular name with the surname and patronymic, the desire to name the child in honor of some family member …
Moreover, in some cases, parents can quickly find a compromise. But sometimes this question causes numerous disputes and debates. How can you come to a common denominator, if this denominator does not want to be?
On the way to compromise
So, for a long time my husband and I could not choose a name for our son, which both of us would have liked and was consonant with the name. Husband wanted son Yura, I – Vadim. With female names, the story was about the same. We did not want to yield to each other.
I know families where parents agreed as follows. A boy is born – the name is given by the father, and the girl is called by the mother. But I somehow did not want to trust such an important question to the banal case. I did not want Yura under any scenario. And the chance with a similar approach, that it would be Yura, was, as you understand, 50%.
When we already knew that we should wait for the boy, the question became even sharper. Went through a bunch of names, they did not find the desired compromise. It seems to me that by that time my husband was already in a position and simply did not want to agree with me. However, the same impulses moved me.
Pretty exhausted, I finally found for myself the name that I was most sympathetic. Yes, and with the name it looked organic. And then I decided to use a little trick. Without reporting my discovery, I suggested the following option to my husband.
We took the book, which describes the character traits of people bearing a particular name. You, for certain, saw similar editions in shops. As a rule, they have lists of female and male names.