I really want to answer the truth with this question – in any way, but some exceptions to the rules cannot be ignored. Often, these are men at the age of far beyond 40 and who have their first child. I hope someone lucky.
To begin with, the question: Does the child change the behavior of a man? – A friend of mine answered the following:
Aha Right now :). Instantly. First, the level of alcohol in the blood starts to change immediately from the maternity hospital, then as a whole, consciousness … may even turn off :). Well, seriously, after the child says “Dad” for the first time, something starts to happen. I speak about the overwhelming majority, nobody canceled exceptions. Answering the question, I mean a certain majority and a certain average of the reactions. Men are more aware of this relationship, we do not give birth. do not bear … THANK GOD!
This is the funny answer I received from one very respected man by me. Honestly, I heard something similar from mine, but I heard – I watched.
Congratulations, you became parents!
When a child is born, I mean the first days here at the maternity hospital, when we weren’t used to it yet, we think about the feat that we performed, and how happy dad will be when he sees his creation. A sense of euphoria is present in us for long.
Then a husband appears. With someone he was in childbirth, then perhaps his reaction is slightly different and the relationship with the child is a little stronger. My, personally, was late for discharge, and I left the hospital almost the last :). But I am no stranger to his similar antics, so I was calm.
I have never seen my husband so agitated as when they handed him a small envelope. It seems to me that he didn’t even look there for fear :). Just kidding, of course. Took, looked later. I asked: Carry to the car ?, he said: No, I’m afraid, carry it yourself. It is ridiculous to remember all this now.
In general, we conclude – the first reaction of a man to a child is fear. It lasts for about a month. At home with fear, he unwraps the envelope, looks, counts fingers, hands, legs, then tries to take the pens very carefully. Then he tries not to take the pens once again, because he is afraid to tear off his head :). You can laugh about it endlessly.
All in its place
But then comes the worst – generic depression in women. A man, it turns out, reconciled with the fact that he had a child, he came to himself and continues to live in the same direction: working, resting, talking with friends and so on. Naturally, he is glad that he has a baby, but their children do not touch them as much as women in order to lisp with them (the words of my husband).
They love them very much, of course, but they show their care a little differently – they earn more money to ensure a future for the child. I also wanted him to forget about everything, but only be there, help me bathe, dress, look at her, walk, keep. Oh, how wrong I was!
It’s good that I came to my senses and, at last, I understood the whole meaning, I understood my purpose, I understood the role of a man, and most importantly, I accepted everything as it is and should be. Therefore, we are fine, we are a real family, where everyone is at his place. The husband said that his daughter loves more than anyone in the World, that she evokes unrealistic feelings in him that he had never experienced. And I have no reason to doubt it.
I wanted to devote this topic to women who play the role of mistress and give birth to children from married men in order to bind them in this way to themselves, to fall in love. I know for sure that a man with the appearance of a child will not change the situation and attitude towards a woman. In most cases, he will not even leave his wife. Men are different, and the appearance of children does not change their essence.
Do you agree with me?