Remembering with warmth
Adults, remembering their childhood, remember grandparents with special warmth. After all, it is the grandmother who pampers her beloved grandchildren with gifts, and the grandfather goes fishing with them and to the circus. Just by becoming a mother, and acquiring your own children, you begin to understand how everything is not simple and ambiguous – relationships with grandparents and their love for their grandchildren.
I myself grew up as a granddaughter, being brought up to six years by the same grandmother and grandfather, then by the other, while my parents worked abroad. Therefore, to indulge, and to punish me had to grandparents, and no excesses in my upbringing was not. Although, in the opinion of my own parents, their children were brought up much tougher than my granddaughter.
Excesses in relation to grandchildren
But as an adult, I watched as my mother-in-law allowed my little daughter to literally everything, while saying, what kind of mother, that is, I, byaka. Honestly, I was pleased that after the divorce, the mother-in-law stopped visiting her granddaughter — I think that such education would not lead to anything good.
Probably not I alone had to deal with this attitude. I know that some grandparents take a very interesting position in relation to their own grandchildren: Let the parents bring up, and we will only indulge.
The consequences of such an attitude threaten very big problems for the child and his parents in the near and distant future. The saddest thing is that it is difficult and often useless to deal with all the excesses of relatives. And the option to cut in a lively way, limiting the time for a child to communicate with such caregivers, is also not always possible.
Good wizards – grandparents
But my neighbor, also the mother-in-law, treats her two daughters-in-law quite loyally and, as she can, helps them with the children. Grandmother’s apartment for her grandchildren is actually her second home, and sometimes it even seems to me that her grandson and granddaughter are with her all the time. A neighbor even got a job in shifts so that she could sit with her grandchildren more often.
There was no such happiness in our family as a caring grandmother – my parents live very far away and their grandchildren were not often seen. Therefore, I know firsthand about the difficulties of living without grandparents. Children often get sick, hospital jobs are not welcome and mothers have to quit to stay at home with children – which I did many years ago.
And looking back, I am very sorry that my children of grandparents were deprived of most of their lives. And not because I had to change my profession, and not because of domestic difficulties, but for a completely different reason.
Having become wiser, our parents try to put all their love and care into their grandchildren, often what they did not, in their opinion, give to their children. Grandmothers and grandfathers are an additional rear for a child, a source of attention and warmth, those kind wizards whose memories warm the souls of long-grown children.