Maternity leave for me really became a vacation. Of course, I get very tired sometimes from new responsibilities that have befallen me. Of course, I do not sleep much at night, because my daughter often wakes up. But then we are all the time with the baby together! Together we begin to learn about the world around us!
And everything would be great if it were not for the urgent need to go to work when the baby is 1.5 years old. And now I’m just tormenting myself with the question with whom I leave my daughter’s pile. For me personally, this is really the flour of choice, because for 1.2 years we have hardly ever parted with the baby.
Today I have two options on the agenda – a grandmother or a nanny. Of course, everyone will say unanimously – grandmother. Grandma still works with us … But first things first.
I think all moms know what problems we have in order to get to kindergarten. They told us that we can only go to 2.3 years old. We are not yet 1.5 years old. That will have to wait almost another year!
Private kindergarten also disappears. We have two reasons for this. Firstly, such a garden is very far from our house. I will have to wake my daughter in the morning and haul her through the city to this garden. I think for her it will be a torment! Yes, and I have to get up at 5 am every day. Well, the second reason is the material side of the question.
In general, it’s psychologically very difficult for me to leave my daughter alone. I, of course, mean without my presence. I trust only my grandmother, that is, my mom. The rest of the relatives of the maximum can walk an hour with her, and even then, until she sleeps. And about a complete stranger in general, a separate conversation.
I look at my girlfriends, and after all many children with babysitters are sitting. And nothing, everything seems fine, according to them! But then, of course, a person needs a proven one, otherwise you might run into it like that! I heard a lot of stories about how valuable things are being taken away from the apartment. Come on with her, with the apartment! They also beat children!
I began to ask the nannies for the girlfriends’ recommendations, and it turned out that one year and a half was loaded. Another has her own granddaughter, and she will sit with her and take someone else along with her. Of course, for others attention such as it will not be.
In the end, until I managed to find a nanny who could be trusted. There are offers on various sites, but to a complete stranger I don’t trust my treasure.
I already wrote in one of my topics that I gave birth to my first child as early as 30 years old. And I remember how my mother asked me to give her granddaughter or granddaughter. How many promises then was! It was necessary to record on a dictaphone! And he will help, and he will immediately retire! Well, in general, give birth I do not want J
What is the result! My mom, of course, helps a lot – she comes often, walks with her granddaughter. But she does not want to retire to any! And she knows perfectly well that I, too, cannot fail to go to work, and they will not take us to kindergarten yet. Yes, and about the nanny herself she told me different fears. But persuading her to retire does not work!
They tell me with my dad, you know which option they offer? I give them my daughter to live and they take turns sitting with her. The benefit of the work schedule they allow each other to replace in the role of a nurse. And for the weekend I will take the baby home.
They did this with me – at 1.5 years old they themselves gave me to live with my grandmother. But personally, I do not accept this option! I will not see the most important moments of my child’s life! I will not see her grow, smiling! What is 2 times a week? It is very, very small. Although I know many girls who live like this. Yes, and in my mother’s approaches to education, I also have a number of grievances.
But there is no special choice, unfortunately. Either native people, or a stranger. Of course, the advantage is in the direction of the grandparents. But with one condition! I will live with them in order to communicate with my beloved in the evenings. And for the weekend we will go to his home. And so we need to stretch only 9 months! And then we go to the kindergarten.
Of course, we still have a couple of months to change our mind. So I will suffer further!
Mommies, and with whom do your kids stay when you go to work early? Share, please! Maybe our question can be solved in the best way!