No one likes smart. No one, understand? Teachers do not like. Pupils do not like. Man becomes an outcast. And if the child also has any physical nuance, then you can forget about a quiet life – it will be spewed many times more often. Object for ridicule – is it worth it?
Yes, strange as it may sound. The habit of being the first can play a bad joke. For example, the lack of spatial thinking. Failures on the same geometry. But parents are waiting! They are used to the fact that their child is the most. And suddenly – failed. In this situation, children often receive a portion of the negative instead of support: how can it be so! We counted on you!
If you look at the teenage statistics of suicide, a large number of deaths are associated with unjustified parental expectations.
Encyclopedic knowledge does not really give any advantage in real life. The ability to think, compare, analyze and make decisions – this is what helps us to become successful. And not learned in six months cards of various types of gymnastics.
No need to spoil the childhood of children. For this there are other people. Love them, help them grow. Teach them to believe in themselves. But just do not make them encyclopedias on the legs – they will not forgive them.
If you still do not believe me – read the biographies of the great geeks. They became great … But were they happy?
In order not to be unfounded, I will tell my story:
Nobody developed me. Instead of kindergarten, I sat at my mother’s desk at work and drew. When he grew up, they let him sit at a free computer and print in Lexicon.
I learned to read early – by 3 years already fluently. Not because they taught – I had no one to read. I grabbed it all very easily. By 1st class I knew the whole program until the 5th. At 5 I was not taken – not allowed. Mom still reproaches herself that she didn’t find in herself the hardness and didn’t make me accept at least in the 4th.
The result – no one asked me up to grade 5. I sat in the gallery. The disciples did not like – who loves such? There was nothing to talk to them about. I already read Eulenspiegel at school, they read Fox and Crane. The result – eggs laid in the portfolio, crushed on purpose – spoiled textbooks, library scandal, shame, hysteria.
Teachers could not bear – many things knew better than them. Erudite was, read. I was not forgiven for this – they were driven out, they were substituted. The result – the humiliation of the entire class by teachers and the school psychologist. Scandals with the director.
Lack of desire to learn. Shame for your own knowledge. The habit of being ashamed of yourself in general, in principle. Low self-esteem. Lack of friends. By grade 11 – only 5 fours – the remaining three, the lack of desire for learning, infantilism, laziness, the habit of not standing out and a persistent feeling of worthlessness.
Did my knowledge give me some plus in life? Unfortunately no. They are not useful.
Have they made my life brighter or richer? Also no.
So was it worth all that had to endure? Not again.
This is the flip side of the coin. No one will forgive your children if they are a cut above the majority. They will be burned at the stake – if not in the direct, then in the figurative sense.
Develop children, but do not make them encyclopedias on legs. No need to try to make them prosperous in everything. Better teach them to be happy, teach to take care of others and appreciate this life.
Let everything go on as usual. The main thing – love your children. Maintain. Keep safe. And what time he learns to count is not so important. All the same – learn.
