I have interesting neighbors – a young couple with two sons of 2 and 5 years old. It looks beautiful, young family. But for everyone who sees them on the horizon, blood cools in their veins.
I guess I exaggerated a little. Not all of them are terrified by their appearance, but only by those whose children encounter this sweet couple of boys in the playground.
A little about raising children in this family
The head of this young family is constantly at work. A young mother is sitting at home with offspring.
Parents practically do not engage in children, and they do not attend kindergarten. For days, the boys entertain themselves as much as they can. Namely, watching TV and fighting for any reason.
Fight, I exaggerated. The one who is older can, with one blow, throw away the younger one to the other end of the room. But the youngest does not want to give up and is looking for more insidious ways of revenge. He bites, plucks, hides and breaks the toys of the elder. This model of behavior they bring to the street.
The eldest son, like all children at the age of 5 years old, is interested in communication with peers. Therefore, he quite actively joins the game, where other children participate. But the trouble is that nobody taught him to play together, but I want attention. Therefore, the boy prefers to take aggressive positions in games.
For example, all the children run away from him in unison, while he, waving a stick, seeks to catch and hit one of them. Or all the children fantasize that he is a devil or a stinker and also strive to avoid a collision with him on the playground by any means, and he is chasing them.
It looks like they are having fun playing together. His mother is pleased. But if you listen to the words of the children or look at the roles in the game, the spectacle seems rather sad.
The youngest son is 2 years old. He has not yet reached the age when communication with other children becomes a need. He likes to explore everything now.
His circle of interests includes all the toys in the playground and all the swings. Only because of the inability to ask, the child takes away toys from the owners in the most brazen manner.
Having learned from the example of communication with my brother, in the case of resistance, the child is rather pushed and bites.
The reaction of other parents
It is clear that none of the parents are delighted with finding this pair of boys on the playground, but it’s not always possible to go elsewhere.
Attempts to bring something to the young mother are misunderstood and run into aggressive attacks.
I behave a little differently. Maybe because of the small age of my daughter, I constantly stay with her and just watch that no one hurts her.
Moreover, my husband and I occasionally communicate with the parents of the children (our neighbors). We’ll ask you for a loan, something else …
I even tried somehow very carefully to convey to them the idea of the importance of raising children. I sent them articles in social networks. She showed an example of communication with her own child. But things are there.
And it would seem, what do I care? But I am interested in what kind of people neighbors children will grow up with. Can they socialize? Will I be able to live in the same staircase with them and let the child walk without fear?
Have you ever come across such children? Can you recommend me something? Do you think school or time will change their behavior?