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Can the love of parents spoil the child, kids

Everyone knows that lack of attention and lack of parental love adversely affects children. But on the contrary, if the love of parents is too strong, can it harm the child? Maybe, after all, there must be a measure in everything. Although the scale of love has not yet come up.

Of course, everyone understands that parental love is limitless. But its manifestations in each family are individual. Someone constantly kisses and hugs their children, and someone is stingy with emotions.

I am surprised by parents who are afraid to once again say a kind word to their child. But often he is showered with various gifts, especially if funds allow. Is it important for a baby to get love in cash? I think the tender embrace of mom and dad is much more important for him.

And at the same time, there are families where love for children develops into hyper-care, and this is no longer correct. Such love interferes with emotional growth, the child becomes dependent on parents, his self-esteem and self-confidence decreases.

Life for the sake of children

Many parents consider their children to be the meaning of their lives. In my opinion, this is fundamentally wrong.

So, one of my friends often repeats that he lives only for the sake of his son. And it turns out that it puts excessive demands on him. If the child is doing something wrong, then scandals are obtained. She tells him that he does everything for his sake, and he disappoints her. And the baby is only five years old.

Growing up, the child will constantly think, and what will the mother say? Does he need it? On the contrary, parents should think about what their children want.

Sense of ownership



Often parents consider a child to be their property. It sounds crazy, but it is. In this case, the child grows completely dependent.

It is necessary to respect the opinion of the child and engage in dialogue with him. There are many examples of such love.

By the way, some children put up with such a situation, they are satisfied that everything will be decided without them. And others begin to rebel, they do the opposite.

I have a second cousin who was raised by one mother. She is a very powerful woman, everything should be just as she says. And the daughter for her was and is like a soldier in the army, fully obeying her orders. Although she has already grown, she has her own family, but the word mom is still the main thing for her. True, it suits them, but her husband – no.

How to love a child?

I think first of all love should be sincere. Love can not be learned, it is either there or not. Unfortunately, there are cases when parents do not love their children. It is sad.

I love being with my children, I often embrace them, kiss them, but at the same time I punish them.

Very often, I think about whether I am doing everything correctly. Although, probably, such doubts appear in any person. I really want my children to be happy. But I do not want to force them to live according to their own script.

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