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How to make a child do the lessons: an effective technique from a psychologist

How to make a child do lessons without tears and scandals

How to make a child do the lessons: an effective technique from a psychologist

In the course there are persuasions, compromises and, what to hide, screams and scandals. But, as it turned out, to force the child to do the lessons without all these side effects, you just need to leave him alone. How to do it, told Ekaterina Murashova.

The child does not want to do the lessons. History first

mdash; I have a wonderful girl. Kind, sympathetic, affectionate, intelligent. If you ask her, she will always help me with housework. On all the holidays draws me mdash; my beloved mother. She studies in the third grade. And learning something is not bad! But look, I just cry, because I already have no strength. Why? Now I will say. At us with her all is remarkable, while business does not reach preparation of lessons.

She understands perfectly well that lessons must still be done. Hardly every evening we agree with her how everything will be tomorrow: she herself will sit down, they will quickly do it (for her it is not at all difficult), and we will not swear with her. But the next day she comes to business and she has a hundred excuses: now I’ll finish the game, now I’ll drink some water, I’ll take my grandmother to a grandmother, my grandmother asked her to get a rug from the closet (it was last night, but she remembered only now), but tell me me, Mom, I’ve been wanting to ask you for a long time. And all this can drag on for hours! First I try to restrain myself, I answer calmly: then, sit down for lessons, it’s evening, you will not think anything afterwards, but in the end I can not stand it and just yell like a sergeant to a soldier: Alena, sit down immediately, otherwise I will not I know what I’m going to do to you! Then she takes offense and begins to cry: Mom, what are you always shouting at me ?! What have I done to you? And I really feel like a monster, because she’s a good girl! But you can not do lessons! And if everything is allowed to go on its own, so it will stitch up to ten o’clock, when it is already necessary to sleep, and not to solve mathematics What should we do? I do not want to spoil my relationship with my daughter!