How to teach a child to fall asleep by himself for a year or more?
How to teach a child to fall asleep by himself? This is an urgent issue for parents of young children. In this article, we will discuss the main reasons for the child’s unwillingness to fall asleep independently and offer parents some effective methods of solving this problem.
Why a child under 1 year and older can not fall asleep alone: the main reasons
First, let’s define the dream itself. Sleep is the physiological need of the human body. Therefore, the baby can not help sleeping. Sleep in any way will wash your baby. Undoubtedly, if he is healthy, his teeth are not cut, he is comfortable and comfortable in his crib. If the child is awake before going to bed, he can not sleep for a long time even on the hands of his mother.
Very often young parents teach the child to sleep with them. Joint sleep has its pros and cons. But the main difficulty is that the grown up child is very difficult to wean sleep in the parent’s bed.
The main reasons for the child’s unwillingness to fall asleep are:
- Physical ailment or illness . Babies need special attention when they have colic in the abdomen, chisels are cut, diathesis worries, etc. You need to find out the cause of the ailment and first of all deal with it.
- Overexcitation . It is not necessary to play with the baby in a rolling game before bedtime, toss it, roll it on a ball, etc. A warm bath and a relaxing massage help to remove overexcitement. Older children can read a book, tell a fairy tale, sing a lullaby.
- Bad habits. We have already written that many parents themselves teach their children to fall asleep next to themselves. Breastmilk mothers often do not stand the load and fall asleep right during feeding. Kids quickly get used to this state of affairs and sleep with pleasure in their parents’ bedroom. And like everything is fine, the child does not act up, quickly falls asleep. Why not? As statistics show, a very large number of families disintegrate because of the lack of an intimate life in this period. Parents do not get enough sleep, they constantly feel tired and irritated. A child is accustomed to the parent’s bed and evicting it from there is very problematic even at two, three, and four. Another bad habit is a dream with a pacifier in his mouth. Accustomed to the pacifier, the child wakes up as soon as it falls out of his mouth. Do not teach the baby to sleep constantly with a pacifier. If a child spits out a nipple in a dream, do not give it to him again.
- Improperly organized regime of the day. It is advisable to put the child to sleep at certain times. According to doctors, the child should develop a biorhythm – a uniform alternation of functional states.
Disputes about these techniques continue to this day. For some parents, these methods are not acceptable.
This method is offered by a woman. And in fact, it is essentially different from the male view of the problem. Svetlana Bernard is the mother of three children. She learned from her own experience all the difficulties associated with the problem of self-shedding of children. When she tried to teach the third child to sleep alone, she had the book of the American doctor Richard Ferber in her hands. Thanks to this book, Svetlana realized that this problem should be approached scientifically. She began to collect various materials on this topic and, finally, released her book. In this article we will only outline the main points of this technique.
At the beginning of her book Svetlana Bernard tells that not all doctors consider it necessary to wean the child from the mother's bed. Many people hold the opinion that the constant affinity with the mother has a favorable effect on the child's mental development for up to a year. However, this medal has a second side. After a year the child is very difficult to wean from the habit of sleeping next to the parents.
When will we allow a child to sleep with his parents?
Svetlana Bernard does not rule out the possibility of sharing a child's and parents' sleep if: