How to bring up emotional intelligence in a child?
Kids give us a clear understanding of what it means to be alive: in an instant the child runs and is full of joy, and in another – cries, scattering toys around the room. Experts believe that such situations give parents the opportunity to teach children how to control outbreaks of feelings and guide these emotions into a constructive channel at such an early age, when jumps occur and boundaries are set in emotional growth. Why and how to develop emotional intelligence in a child, our article will tell.
What is emotional intelligence and what is the use of it?
A child with a high level of emotional intelligence:
- better manage their feelings;
- can cope with stressful situations;
- seeks to understand others;
- can create a strong friendship.
- grows confident, responsible and successful;
- skillfully approaches the creation of interpersonal relationships.
Emotional management is not given much attention, such as academic achievement, but research suggests that predicting the success of a person in life is possible only by emotional intelligence, and not by a factor of mental development.
Self-control, awareness and understanding of emotions; bases of emotional intelligence
- Self-monitoring is one of the components of emotional intelligence, and this aspect is important for predicting achievements in children. Children who are able to control emotional impulses demonstrate their ability to socialize and often achieve their goals. One study was based on the study of the self-control of school-age children and their successes in 30 years. It turned out that such research gave correct forecasts about the social situation, environment, success. Children with a high level of self-control were more healthy, earning more, had no previous convictions and alcohol problems, which the IQ test could not predict.
- The first brick of emotional intelligence is awareness and understanding of emotions. We must learn to understand and accept our emotions before we can control and express them. Emotions are not inconvenience, they serve certain purposes. For example, sadness is an emotion capable of slowing down both our thoughts and our motor activity, allowing us to reflect on the source of emotional distress and to better understand the prerequisites. Anger accelerates us, mobilizing power and energy, providing an intensive flow of blood to the limbs. Such an emotion serves as preparation for the struggle. Anger can say that our rights have been violated, but it gives strength to protect against future threats.