My son is afraid of the dark. Not to say that fear is very strong, but it is. For example, the son does not like to enter the room when it is dark. I ask what he is afraid of there, he answers: I am afraid that I will be eaten by an owl or I am afraid of a ghost.
I must say that neither the owl, nor the ghosts, nor the darkness itself frightened the child. We were not locked in a dark room; there were no Babaevs and monsters under the beds. Therefore, I strongly disagree with the version about the nature of the children’s fear of the dark connected with the punishment of parents. I also expressed my opinion about the pugs from my parents.
With a ghost, the son met in a cartoon about Robokar, owls in fairy tales also fly from time to time and scare travelers. By the way, we read about the owl and the informative book and saw the owls in the zoo, so the son also knows its size and what it eats.
I’m afraid of her myself!
For some reason, I don’t see a problem in my son’s fear. Maybe because we don’t have a problem – the child’s panic doesn’t arise, he can hide in the closet while playing hide-and-seek, and in the dark corridor, while I open the door, he likes to play the same owl. Or maybe just because I myself am afraid of the darkness, and it is much easier to take a condescending attitude towards my weaknesses. I do not like to go to the shower in the village, when it is already dark, to go out alone into the darkness of the street, and it is unpleasant for me to walk around my own apartment in the dark. Of course, I can overcome myself, but if there is an opportunity to avoid these unpleasant moments, I will take advantage of it.
Having rummaged in my past, I did not see any reasons that gave rise to my fear. I was also not scared and not locked in a dark room. And if my nightmare is clearly from childhood, it is not clear here.
How to behave
When a child is afraid of the dark, many parents struggle with this fear: turn off the light in the room, leave the child in the dark, and even shame. I know some dads who love to knock a wedge with a wedge. I think that this is not a big mind, and I am against it! When my eldest daughter was afraid to sleep in a dark room and asked not to turn off the lights in the hallway, I always went to meet her. Gradually, everything went.
1. Do not scare the darkness and the monsters that live in it.
2. With all of his views to prove that nothing terrible in the dark can not be.
3. Use a nightlight.
4. Do not use the child’s fear for educational purposes.
5. Do not laugh or shame like you are a boy.
Causes of fear
I did not study this issue. It seems to me that, falling into darkness and losing the opportunity to use one of its senses, namely, sight, a person feels insecure. At the same time, other feelings become aggravated, and the person pays more attention to all sorts of rustles and knocks. Imagination draws a picture and a terrible monster is ready for you! Why the imagination does not draw a beautiful princess, I can’t say … Perhaps the instincts laid down by nature are already working here.
Are your children afraid of the dark?