When a woman finds out that she will soon become a mother, the question arises before her: whether it is necessary to find out the sex of the future baby before his birth or whether this should not be done. I want to talk about the factors that have helped determine the answer to me personally. Namely, about how I weighed the pros and cons.
The main argument to keep the baby’s floor in secret for me was the presence of a surprise. It would seem that before, until there were ultrasound procedures, future mothers could not know exactly who is in the stomach. And yet it didn’t hurt them. It was only important that the baby be healthy.
Some still categorically refuse to do ultrasound, because they believe that it is very harmful for their unborn child. And it also becomes one of the reasons for not recognizing the gender.
During pregnancy, I had no doubts about the need for this examination, several routine ultrasound procedures were determined by the doctor, which were considered mandatory.
When you know the floor of the future baby, you can safely proceed to the preparations. Someone can say that you can buy and do everything you need within a few days after the baby is born. In addition, the color of things and other accessories for the baby can be chosen neutral, suitable for both the boy and the girl.
I do not argue, you can. But I wanted the color of the stroller, crib, my firstborn’s first things to speak for itself. For a boy – blue or blue, for a girl – pink with all kinds of ruffles.
Another advantage of the knowledge of gender for me was the ability to communicate with the baby. Of course, you can and should communicate in any case. But I wanted to address the child with the words of a son or daughter, as well as by name.
My husband and I decided on the baby’s name long before the pregnancy. The name was chosen for both boy and girl.
The decisive argument, also belonging to the group, for me was the opinion of my husband. He burned with impatience to find out, more precisely, with impatience to receive confirmation that we will have a son. Perhaps most men dream of a firstborn boy. Although the daughters in the end love a little more.
In the end, the floor of the baby, we learned when the term was 16 weeks. At 23 weeks everything was confirmed. We were waiting for a son. Began preparations. I got the opportunity to say good morning to my future baby, sonny !, good night, Egorushka! and much more. Already at that stage we perceived him as a member of our family, and not an impersonal baby.
I have not regretted my choice once. Although at the same time I still believe that every mother should choose the option that is convenient to her. Indeed, the main thing is the health of the baby. And we, moms, will equally love both a boy and a girl.