We recently moved to another city and began living next to my husband’s mother. She began to come to visit us often. But our little daughter somehow reacts to her incorrectly. Once she even saw through the window that grandmother was coming, and ran the door to close the internal lock, can you imagine?
I began to understand why this is happening and how we, adults, to be in this situation. After all, it is not normal when a child is afraid of his own grandmother!
I found out the reasons
First of all, I decided to find out why our child treats her grandmother so much. Well, if the grandmother did not come to us, I would understand that she, until she entered into trust, would be a stranger to the baby. But they did see each other a couple of times a year, and they talked on the phone.
I decided to talk to our daughter. She asked why she refers to the arrival of her grandmother. And, you know what my little bloke answered me? Yeah, do not guess! I myself was shocked. He told me that my grandmother was very much.
I didn’t even think that it was because of the manifestation of excessive love and custody, our child began to fear the arrival of her grandmother in panic.
Talked to grandmother
Now it remains for me to lucidly convey to our grandmother why she should not come to us so often, and even more so in these parishes to show excessive attention to her beloved granddaughter. If it was my mother, it would be easier for me. And then my husband’s mother …
I just started talking to her, but she pursed her lips, narrowed her eyes. She said that she did not need a child to hide behind, that she noticed that she was not always welcome here. Well, now I have two problems instead of one …
After an unsuccessful conversation with my grandmother, I decided that I would have to get out of the situation in another way. And here again I was surprised by our daughter. She said that she wanted her grandmother to come to visit, but asked why our grandmother was bored and had nothing to do.
It turns out that the grandmother is less hyperopic manifested in relation to her granddaughter, we need to take the fire. What my husband and I did. They began to distract her from the baby more often.
And also, in her absence, we began to show our daughter old photos, where my husband is a child with my mother. Our girl enjoyed looking at the photos, asked when it was, what kind of toys the father had, who bought them for him. So our beauty got used to the grandmother, as to the good friend, but not to persuasive.
But still the daughter still tries to avoid her grandmother more than to be with her. What else should I do, I don’t know. Maybe someone had a similar situation? How did you get out of it?