Why does the child demand gifts all the time and what should parents do?
How much great happiness brings a long-awaited gift to a child, parents who gift this gift receive no less joy. Each loving dad with his mother wants to please his baby and try his best to please the child. Glowing happiness of the child’s eyes at the sight of a new toy or goodies make parents present gifts more often. Only one day comes the moment when your baby can turn into a small extortioner, and already from the threshold it is insulting to ask: What did you bring me? . If the answer is no, the child may even throw a fit or become offended.
Gradually the child suddenly ceases to appreciate gifts, and the crumbs’ requests do not stop growing. So where is the line when gifts become harmful for personal development, and why do we, parents, ourselves grow small extortionists.
There are several categories of children who constantly require gifts.
- A clear demander. Such a kid openly demands giving him regularly, he sincerely believes that his family must do this only because he is a child. For any even the most insignificant action or help asks for a present. Easily blackmails parents, for example, refuses to eat, go to bed, go to the grandmother. Requirements often turn into crying, nervous behavior. Parents sometimes believe that it is better to give up and buy what the child wants, if only the conditional peace reigns;
- Poor thing. In the eyes of parents, equates gifts and their number to the manifestation of love, considers themselves unhappy and deprived, without getting what they want, behaves appropriately. Can blame parents for insolvency and compare themselves-unfortunate with other children (Under the mask of the victim, what to do if the child beats on pity);
- Secret manipulator. He knows how to find the weak spots of his relatives, he knows where to press so that they feel uncomfortable. I will not go for a walk, I do not have one last doll from the collection; says the little girl, and nothing that is in the nursery is not one dozen doll beauties. Parents feel uncomfortable, ashamed that the child is deprived. Kid-manipulator can always find new ways to persuade relatives to buy what he wants.