How to react and combat the vagaries of a child (child from birth to 1 year)
Addition to the family is a great happiness for the parents. When the birth has passed safely and the child develops according to the age norms, the mother rarely cares about the capriciousness of the child. Parents can not rejoice when the baby grows calm and complaisant. Moms and dads get used to this, and it seems to them that this will always be so. But suddenly everything changes. The child began to be capricious, often crying, does not give in to persuasion. This often happens by the end of the first year of life. Why is this happening?
To understand whether a child under the age of 1 year can be capricious, we suggest examining the psychological characteristics of the development of crumbs:
The crisis manifests itself in the interval from birth to 2 months. This is a very important stage in the development of the child. And the timely appearance of a crisis is the norm. Your child should respond to the approach of an adult, make sounds (vocalize) when communicating with his mother, respond with a smile. Weight loss is the main sign of the crisis.
This is the second stage of a child’s development up to a year. Most often it appears from the second month to a year. At this time, the kid communicates through emotions. And it is important for parents to pay great attention to communication. Gradually, the baby pronounces the first words, studies the world through actions with objects of environment.
Что такое капризы. Может ли новорожденный ребенок капризничать
Под капризами понимают разные прихоти и упрямство. В раннем возрасте под видом каприза прячутся основные потребности ребенка и чувство дискомфорта. Иногда, называя своего малыша в возрасте до года капризным, мамы неверно истолковывают само определение. Ведь плач и беспокойство ребенка в столь нежном возрасте – это единственный путь общения с родными. В их арсенале нет слов, жесты тоже еще слабо выражены ; остается только реветь. А причин для расстройств может быть несколько. Первые, естественные – ребенок хочет кушать, у него мокрые пеленки, либо же он замерз. Возможно также, что малыш просит помощи, когда у него что-то болит. Заботливая мама сразу поможет малышу.
It often happens that a joyful and festive day, brightly held together with the baby ends with the vagaries and tears of a child. He refuses to fall asleep, too excited and difficult to calm. This behavior for children 10-18 months is the result of the nervous overstrain that they experienced. Their tears - a natural way at this age will get rid of tension. After all, a noisy company, new faces, bright colors and unusual sounds - all this was stress for the baby. Therefore, he is irritated, crying, and capricious. In this situation, you need to show maximum care and patience to the child. Do not get screamed and threatened to make him calm down. It is better to hold the child to yourself, reproach on your hands, do pleasant procedures for him: redeem in a warm bath or spend a light massage session. All this will help the baby to relax more quickly and calm down.
Such troubles and moods in the child may arise in another situation, when the prohibitions of parents come into effect. Almost a year the baby was confined to the walls of the arena or stroller, surrounded only by familiar things. With the development of the child, he has the need to learn new things. He did not know the other and was satisfied with it.
I fell several times to the whims of my son. Now he began to act without shouting and swearing. In a strict and calm voice I repeat several times the prohibition or reminder that it is necessary to take away things or toys. Completely different began to react to the child, it is easier to perceive and listen.
Now very often I encounter this problem; children are incredibly spoiled, growing up, rude to parents and strangers. And what will happen to them in life? As they, being in adulthood, will live without my mother's skirt, which protects them from their aggression. Parents, think about it, indulging the whims of your children, you are doing them a disservice.
The main thing is never to yield to obvious whims. When a child is lying around, he shakes his head and squeals, if something is not given to him or bought. I would punish in such cases, of course, so as not to be so dishonorable, especially in public places. If the child is very small, but already shows a character and requires that he should not be given, it is necessary to stand up to the end, in any case not softening and not changing the position. This will help and strict voice, and a light slap on the soft spot (it happens that without this, well, nothing, because a child can scream and do not even listen to what you are trying to explain to him).